A follower with a few months of tango experience and a bunch of transferrable fundamental skills is almost always a better dancer than one with a few years of tango experience who hasn't developed these skills.
Agreed.
I'm not one to defend or promote choosing partners on the basis of age, but sadly, many of the longer-term followers in the local community got into tango because they were bored, attended one or two four-month group sessions, and then danced for 10, 20, or more years, learning all the bad habits of the local leaders but never going back to class. When I worked at the studio, it was hell getting these people to sign up for classes in follower technique. Yet they were the first to grouse in person and online about how the men were rude for not inviting them. I tried to be the good guy who invited them, but after one especially brutal kick in the shins, I gave up. My teacher (who had his buttocks punctured by a heel years before) warned me, but I had to learn for myself.
By contrast, many of the younger, fitter followers are into Essentrics, Pilates, yoga, dance-based exercise (like Zumba), and hybrids (like PiYo). Being younger means they're of the generation that sees such things as "just what you do with your spare time." Being into those things makes them fitter. It also gives them movement discipline. And it provides exposure to dance, as almost all fitness studios also offer courses in some variety of dance, around here usually several of baladi (belly dancing), flamenco, kizomba, pole dancing, salsa, and samba de gafieira. The desire to stay fit, control the body, and take tons and tons of lessons results in better dancers.
My current partner in dance and life comes from a ballet-jazz background and is into Pilates. My ex had a background in Highland dance, baladi, and Latin dance, and was into PiYo and Zumba. I can't say I find it fun to dance with a "traditional" follower who never took courses in anything and who sees tango as something to be learned on the floor, even if she has decades of dancing in the milonga. To quote one of my teachers, "When somebody tells you they've been dancing for X years, it means nothing. Since they brought it up, ask how many of those years included courses, and for how many hours a week." (I can say six years, peaking at 20 hours/week, and usually volunteer that if challenged.)
The ones around here are mostly traditional-music-only types dancing mundial style tango. In addition to ignoring everyone else on the dance floor, they dance everything way too large/fast/staccato/aggressive no matter what the music is, which does my head in.
Yeah, we get that here. The thing that kills the vibe the most is not huge escenario steps or nuevo movements, but these "traditional" style dancers who take monster steps. You can do more damage with a huge, fast, forward walk than with any number of boleos and off-axis movements, however large. That kind of large, fast walking runs people over and makes a mess of the pista.