Disappearing Dance Instructor

Kits

Kits

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Over the course of your dancing months or maybe years you might have come attached to your instructor. You enjoy their teaching methods and become used to them. They understand you and your reason for dancing. Now imagine just walking into your studio unexpectedly finding out that the instructor you have gotten used to for so long is no longer there. They disappeared from the studio and you have no idea why (in my case I don't want to know why, I want to keep my proud moments I had with my instructor and not let anything else cloud my mind-at least now at this point) they left.

Has this ever happen to you? How were you able to cope with it and move on to the next Instructor?

I just found this out tonight. I'm really bummed about it, considering I am new to dancing and I really hit it off with my dance instructor the last four months.
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I'm on my fourth instructor here, who is actually my first again (she came back to teaching). It's definitely not easy too do as you get attached. Esp when they leave with no warning.

One thing you definitely have to do is try not to compare the new teacher to your old one. Not fair to either of you. Try to keep reminding yourself to treat this as something new
 
Yes, also my first teacher with whom I had a great rapport and whose teaching style really worked for me. A year ago ... still not completely over it ...
 
Yeah I am afraid that I wont be able to get over it. I'll give the other instructors a chance of course but it wont be the same :/
 
No, it won't be the same, but keep reminding yourself that you have to give the new instructor a chance. I came to love working with my new instructors, and ended up very glad that I had taken time to give them a chance
 
Right-guess it might turn out fine, the other dance instructors there are really helpful and considerate to everyones dancing needs.
 
Kits, sorry to hear about your instructor leaving, and I know very well how that hurts--I have not gotten over mine for the last 5 months (after 5 years with the same instructor) and I am not sure I am ever going to. I am taking lessons from two other instructors at the same studio but it is not the same, and sure, intellectually I know I should not be comparing them to my first instructor but emotionally it is hard not to do so, especially since I had great rapport with my teacher. All I can say is hope you can find another teacher that would click with you, if not in the same way as your first instructor, then in a new and exciting way. That is my hope for myself, which so far has not happened but I have not yet given up... *hugs* Hang in there and keep on dancing!
 
Teachers move, but the best future defense is to pick someone who has an individual public identity of their own distinct from whatever floor they happen to be teaching on at the moment. Most everyone who competes professionally would be in that category. They might still move, but you will be probably know in advance, be able to travel to them for follow up or perhaps even get a lesson if they make a visit back to your area.
 
Why does it have to be the end of the world? Unless your teacher was a world champion, odds are there's someone out there better.
 
joe...you're so sentimental


anyhow, KITS, I had a strong personal attachment to my first instructor...when it ended it was painful and I wasn't sure what to do...in the end, I ended up with a much better instructor, with whom I have no personal investment but with whom I have just as much fun learning to dance, actually much more fun....and I am a much better dancer for it...it took a long while for me to mend emotionally and I am glad that I no longer place those sorts of emotional investments in relationships that really aren't ones....it is better for all parties concerned ...IMO...so hang in there....it hurts, but it will heal
 
Odds are you'll end up with someone better. I certainly did when my first instructor stopped teaching me--ended up being the best thing that could possibly have happened.
 
Thanks for your responses. This is really painful. I wish I knew were my instructor went to, if he did go to any other location. I found out today he was termed due to behavior. Which is just so hard to believe.

Anyways I'll be having a couple of lessons with two different instructors in the next couple of weeks. The manager is like, just think of them auditioning for you. Well hopefully this transition will go smoothly...
 
Point out to manager that if the pros are auditioning for you, then shouldn't they be paying for your rtime, rather than vice versa? :)
 
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