Disappearing Dance Instructor

TangoRocks said:
it's simplistic to assume that just anyone can replace the very first dance teacher you ever had--in my case, the first person that I ever danced with, having started from absolute zero. So I respectfully disagree with the DFers who think losing your instructor is no big deal. Sorry for hijacking your thread, Kits!
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I agree, and I have to say that it is simplistic to assume that even with not the very first dance teacher. What if you're already working with the best person in your area and you are not one of those individuals living in big metro areas with big dance scene? Your options will be very limited.
 
I am not sure anyone said it was no big deal...I know that I for one said it was extremely difficult, but ended up being positive...but not immediately...a first instructor is a first instructor, they often hold a special place...deservedly or not i is hard at first to think they can be replaced....and as someone who lives in a less ballroom dense area and now travels a good distance, I for one completely appreciate the difficulty....
 
Well I had my lesson with new instructor and it went really well :D
It doesn't seem that bad after all..
 
Joe said:
Why does it have to be the end of the world? Unless your teacher was a world champion, odds are there's someone out there better.
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One of my past ones was, and another a top competitor, the other two not so much, but I miss them all for different reasons... One because he was so great and it was a privlege to work with him, another I miss because he was a genuine, sweet and passionate person and so much fun to be around and a connection to the aforementioned teacher.. there was no attraction or romantic interest with him but there was with my very first one, who I miss because there was a crush there. The last of the four I miss because he's the closest one to me, social network wise I guess you could say. What I mean to say is I think we miss all our teachers for different qualities that they had and for the unique dynamic of that relationship.
 
Kits said:
Well I had my lesson with new instructor and it went really well :D
It doesn't seem that bad after all..
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Congrats. I remember when I decided to move on from my first teacher because of personal issues with him.. I was so nervous. I've since had to make that transition twice more because of relocating. It's hard but its cool too because you learn a lot more since everyone has their own ways of showing things. And its ok too if you find someone isnt right for you, you should never feel bad about switching.
 
Joe said:
Why does it have to be the end of the world? Unless your teacher was a world champion, odds are there's someone out there better.
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The question is how far. I hate to point fingers but a lot of posts from the last week made me think that there's a huge disconnect between east coast metro areas and the the rest of the country.
 
dunno...I live in nowheresville...if you want it you go get it...you may have to travel a bit and cut back a bit on how many you take...but...where there is a will....:).....nonetheless, one simply can't dismiss attachments particularly of new students...it happens...it's not like lessons come with a warning lable about this...non-frat clauses don't even come close...and I think those of us who are used to this phenomenon forget how powerful it can be for new folks
 
What fasc said. I now have to drive ca. 40 minutes to get to the new studio. It's not a ten-minute walk any more, but it's good enough I can deal. (In fairness: I have dogs, not children, and besides work no one's schedule to care about but my own.)
 
danceronice said:
What fasc said. I now have to drive ca. 40 minutes to get to the new studio. It's not a ten-minute walk any more, but it's good enough I can deal. (In fairness: I have dogs, not children, and besides work no one's schedule to care about but my own.)
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40 minutes is nothing. Try 2 hours.
 
I'm an hour from all things dance.
So lose one instructor, just drive an hour in a different direction.
 
fascination said:
I am not sure anyone said it was no big deal...I know that I for one said it was extremely difficult, but ended up being positive...but not immediately...a first instructor is a first instructor, they often hold a special place...deservedly or not i is hard at first to think they can be replaced....and as someone who lives in a less ballroom dense area and now travels a good distance, I for one completely appreciate the difficulty....
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fasc, I didn't mean you, but a number of replies were of the "who cares, there are other instructors and you'll get over it" sort. I for one have not found a replacement, or at least not yet, and it's almost been 6 months. I have seriously considered quitting because while I still enjoy dancing, my motivation when it comes to learning is at an all time low. I was just pointing out that whether or not you can get over your teacher (and tanya is right, it doesn't have to be your first teacher either, can be any teacher) depends on the quality and quantity of available replacement teachers. I live two hrs / 200 kms (125 miles) away from what you can call a dance-dense metro area and I don't think I have the time/money to go search for a replacement that far.
 
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