Embrace...open or close?

I remember one of best advices how to make embrace from one of my best lector. You should count to 6. One - leader stays in front of follower in best posture he can - gives invitation. Two - follower accepts invitation - steps toward to set up distance between chests, or connect her chest to his . Three - leader place right hand to correct position on follower back. Depends on follower distance and body what shoulder blade I can reach. Four - follower place left hand to correct position to make connection. Five - leader offer left hand as support. Six - follower makes connection with leader palm with right hand.
If you respect this ritual of offering and accepting, then you can avoid any missunderstandings. Of course you should keep this embrace as intimacy limit for whole tanda.
 
opendoor said:
or my left hand to suggest milonguero-hold (apilado). This code facilitates assuming the correct position, half-open on the leader's left side or parallel in the latter case.
Click to expand...
I don't think there is a commonly understood code. But I offer my left hand first so that there is a certain stability when we lean a little towards each other. And I think when I close my fingers to feel the back of her hand, that's already an indicator that I'm about to feel her back in a further step of my protocol.
 
Paja said:
Three - leader place right hand to correct position on follower back. Depends on follower distance and body what shoulder blade I can reach. Four - follower place left hand to correct position to make connection.
Click to expand...
On the contrary.

opendoor said:
my left hand to suggest milonguero-hold (apilado). This code facilitates assuming the correct position, half-open on the leader's left side or parallel in the latter case.
Click to expand...
We were taught leader's left hand first. That gives the opportunity for the follower to close, or request open. But neither the start of the embrace, nor the embrace, is taught well or consistently.
 
TTanguero said:
For me, tango just changed everything about that. Before tango, I think I hugged about three friends I'd known for 20+ years; now I have to restrain myself from hugging the mailman.
Click to expand...
Good for you!

I'm one of those scary huggers. Last night as I was leaving the milonga, a dancer who works with the same coach as me – I wouldn't call him a friend so much as an acquaintance – stopped me in order to introduce his partner to me (she and I had somehow never met). She got a hug. He got a hug. My coach got a hug. EVERYBODY got a hug.

I was always like this. I consider it a virtue, but I realize that others might regard it as a flaw (whence "scary huggers"). However, as I consider it a virtue, I find it gratifying when someone else joins the Hug Side.
 
ArbeeNYC said:
OK. So the first position is the correct one in my view. And many instructors (here, at least) teach that from the beginning. To be fair, with beginners, they also use open hold positions to show them how movements work, because it's much easier to visualize that way. Apilado can, of course, be defined; and it is somewhat different than what is referred to as the abrazo milonguero.
Click to expand...
I’m not sure about that, I’m in nyc too and I feel like it’s more of a mix between 1 and 2 rather than a pure 1
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

Dance Ads

Advertise on Dance Forums Reach dancers, teachers, studios, event organizers, and dance-friendly brands. View ad options
Back
Top