Yeah, I know one like that. A former ballet dancer. She usually dances like that with her partner, and causes problems in the ronda with multiple, slow, decorations (you could go off for a coffee). When her partner dances with anyone else, it's different and pretty good. I've generally avoided asking her, but recently saw her dancing with someone else for a tanda. Completely different
We have far too many!
I really do get that as a leader, it's my job to let followers express themselves. I'm on and on and on about that all the time here, what with my blathering about equal partners and such . . . It's just that I think follower creativity can be expressed via active propositions rather than reactions, and thus be kinetic or even dynamic rather than static.
When I see a couple holding up the ronda while the follower steps back and forth over a foot, caresses the leader's shin, and flicks their leg every which way in unled boleo-like movements, I automatically assume:
1. This leader leaves no room in the dance for their follower. Their follower is desperately unleashing all their creativity and expression in one of the few openings they've been given. That's usually the result of a macho leader who thinks "a man should take charge."
2. This follower leaves no room in the dance for their leader. They see the leader as a pole or barre to use in their show. That's usually the result of a diva follower who thinks "it's the leader's job to show off the follower."
Both are terrible. I try not to be #1, and I try not to dance with #2. The problem is that I attract quite a bit of #2 because the two partners I dance with most often can decorate
on the move, doing things like little crosses or tripling as they step, even stealing ganchos from me as I walk. People assume I'm open to fancy decorations all the time without paying attention to the "on the move" part. I strive to move at the speed of the floor, and if that's fast, the decorations have to be takeaway, not eat-in.