Give me a pep talk.

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phatmonky

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I'm a fairly inexperienced dancer. I'm too much of a social butterfly, and as such spent most of my time in clubs, in the past, flirting with girls off the dance floor.
My present girlfriend enjoys dancing a lot. I've gone out with her a few times to the club and am simply left in the dust. I kind of wing it with the club stuff and can feel that out okay (I'm couting on this forum to help me improve there too ;) ), but found this weekend I am an absolute wreck when it comes to C&W, or even slow dancing, or anything with a structured step to it.
I had her try to teach me to two step and I was a wreck - On toes, never did get the dance down, just awful. And this is supposed to be the core of all my C&W dancing!!

Now that my confidence is shot, this process is feeling like work, not fun. So experienced people, remind me that I can do this, and point me in the right direction :oops:
 
Have your girlfriend come over to your house one day and get her to spend some time helping you learn those steps! She sounds like she must know what she's doing! Or if she doesn't have the patience for that, you can always break down and do what most of us here on DF have had to do to learn how to dance- TAKE LESSONS! :wink:
 
even better...go to lessons together... ballroom lessons... i met my boyfriend at a dance comp and we have been together now for 2 years and are getting engaged on my 16th birthday, we also are partners now.. we enjoy going to our daily lessons together... its alot of fun!!!
 
I agree. Since you don't want club dancing but something more C&W, lessons are the only way. Also agree that if you take them together, it will be more fun. Plus, you'll have one more reason to spend time with her. :wink:
Good luck,

Twilight Elena
 
exactly...but you have to pay for the lessons, otherwise she will think you are cheap, hehehe... also she will love you more if you offer to take dance lessons with her, and we all know what that means...MORE PRESSIES..hehe...

and you never know, you might have a hidden talent for it.
 
Welcome to df phatmonky. You have alreday been given some good advice. Good luck and be sure to let us know how it goes...
 
Snuggles said:
exactly...but you have to pay for the lessons, otherwise she will think you are cheap, hehehe... also she will love you more if you offer to take dance lessons with her, and we all know what that means...MORE PRESSIES..hehe...

and you never know, you might have a hidden talent for it.
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I'm more than happy to PAY to learn to do this :o
The girlfriend tried to show me, and I don't know if it was my inability or her lack of teaching, but I walked away knowing just as little about the dance as I started with :(
I will be calling around for lessons as soon as they open today...And I will surely keep you guys updated!
 
You can do it! :D

And you're right. It could be that a professional teacher is the way to go. A lot of people who are good dancers have gotten so advanced that they don't remember how to break down the beginning steps. It may not be you or your girlfriend that's the issue. You may just need some coaching from a professional.

Good luck to you both. btw did you see the news blurb on MSN last week? Women in some poll or the other described the ideal man as one who dances. (among other things) You're definitely on the right track. 8)
 
Other dances that are done at the C&W club here include east coast swing, west coast swing, cha cha, and hustle. You might want to consider learning those in addition to the two-step. Oh, and the cowbow cha cha (think Neon Moon by Brooks & Dunn) is also good to know.
 
Snuggles said:
been together now for 2 years and are getting engaged on my 16th birthday
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Sorry to say but that is the most foolish thing I have ever heard. NOBODY should ever consider getting married before age 25 (at the earliest 22 after completing a bachelor's degree). You just have not lived enough or experienced enough to know what you really want at 16, 18 or even 20. Most importantly, there is more to a lasting relationship than if you like or even love one another. You must factor in how you will cope with major emotional situations and most importantly how you will make a living sufficient to sustain two people.

A boyfriend of mine proposed to me in high school. Ring and everything...I turned him down because I was wise enough at an early age to know that there was things to do in my future and I was too young to make a decision like who I am going to spend my LIFE with.
 
TemptressToo said:
Snuggles said:
been together now for 2 years and are getting engaged on my 16th birthday
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Sorry to say but that is the most foolish thing I have ever heard. NOBODY should ever consider getting married before age 25 (at the earliest 22 after completing a bachelor's degree). You just have not lived enough or experienced enough to know what you really want at 16, 18 or even 20. Most importantly, there is more to a lasting relationship than if you like or even love one another. You must factor in how you will cope with major emotional situations and most importantly how you will make a living sufficient to sustain two people.

A boyfriend of mine proposed to me in high school. Ring and everything...I turned him down because I was wise enough at an early age to know that there was things to do in my future and I was too young to make a decision like who I am going to spend my LIFE with.
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DITTO!
Go ahead, get engaged, LIVE WITH THE GUY for a few years. Do you really think you will be able to stand each other for the rest of your lives? Take that into consideration. It is a very important factor. People change. (
 
Everybody's different, TT. I wouldn't consider getting engaged at that early age, either. Turned down the ring, too, at 17. But different folks are different. The happiest family I know is made up of my two friends who got married at 18 apiece. Now, 21 years later, they're the ones giving me the best level-headed advice I get anywhere. Then of course, there's my Mom, who quit college and got married at 17. And now, 56+ years later, she's still happily married (something a lot of 30-something newlyweds aren't, years later :? ) and she gives a fair amount of good advice as well. 8)


Sometimes, young love works. But you're right. Often it doesn't.
 
cocodrilo said:
DITTO!
Go ahead, get engaged, LIVE WITH THE GUY for a few years. Do you really think you will be able to stand each other for the rest of your lives? Take that into consideration. It is a very important factor. People change. (
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Come on. Not everybody buys into the idea of living together before getting married. I'm no prude or hypocrite, but I don't agree with it at all, for a lot of reasons that have nothing to do with rightness or wrongness. It's just not something I would do. Full stop.

Besides, isn't the topic a pep talk for a wannabe dancer guy?
 
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