Happy and/or Random Thoughts #3

Status
Not open for further replies.
When DS1 took the Cali bar exam, he spent part of the time under a table. Once the shaking stopped, they resumed the exam without batting an eye.

Tasty waves, Dude!

Yes, I used to have earthquake moments like that. Such as books shaking on a shelf, and mentally trying to guess how much it measured on the Richter scale--not thinking much of it...
 
Hmmm...a bit of papaya, half an avocado, half a mango, grapes, half a zucchini, and spinach. Not bad, nice and creamy, but rather bland. Rose water is an...interesting...addition. Won't do that again.
 
Hmmm...a bit of papaya, half an avocado, half a mango, grapes, half a zucchini, and spinach. Not bad, nice and creamy, but rather bland. Rose water is an...interesting...addition. Won't do that again.


I'm guessing the zucchini contributed most of the blandness. Sounds totally yummy, otherwise. (exept for rosewater)
 
Early in the morning and I can’t eat.
Want a donut, they smell so sweet.
Doctor told me I was gonna die,
If I kept stuffing my face with pie.

Oh no, not again!
Animal short-ning is a sin!
Cholesterol test!
Cholesterol test!

Drove by Portillo’s, I was jonesing for a dog.
But I had to settle for a tofu log.
Screamed out my window, “Why, oh why?”
Wanted fries so bad, I thought I’d cry!

Oh no, not again!
Eating fat is a sin!
Cholesterol test!
Cholesterol test!

Went home and had a green smoothie.
Smelled and tasted like rancid peas.
Sorry, Jenny Craig, but I gotta eat!
So I had me a big red piece of meat.

Oh no, not again…

(Apologies to Rod Stewart.)
 
I had the chocolate cake shake for the first time last week. It is sooooo good...and yet sooooo wrong...

thumbnail.php
 
A good friend of mine has asked me to do a video for the It Gets Better project (series of videos aimed at telling LGBT youth that it's not always bullying and hate...and that they will find people who love and accept them for who they are).

I really strongly support the whole project...I love it, I think it's wonderful, and I'd love to contribute. But I've got no idea what to say...I've never been bullied for being LGBT...things have been pretty good, and there really aren't many ways that it could get better, for me.

Will have to think about this one.
 
I strongly support the project, as well.

Many LGBT teens have such a horrible way to go -- between self esteem issues, bullying, etc. And, in many cases, they lack family support. One of my nieces came out at 16(? I think 16) and her father kicked her out of the house. She spent junior and senior years of high school working three jobs to pay for an apartment. Her father is enough of a homophobe to put his 16-year-old out on the street. One of her jobs was cleaning subway bathrooms at night. At sixteen.

I'm not saying that you should do anything you're not prepared to do or not comfortable doing. I get that. I remember once being in an African-American oriented workshop and having the facilitator ask me to describe my experience. Uhh. Umm... I grew up in upper middle class, white bread suburbia. I can't describe the stereotypical "Black" experience, because I never had it.

So I understand that doing this film may not resonate with you. Just be genuine and do what feels right. You'll be okay. :cool:
 
A good friend of mine has asked me to do a video for the It Gets Better project (series of videos aimed at telling LGBT youth that it's not always bullying and hate...and that they will find people who love and accept them for who they are).

I really strongly support the whole project...I love it, I think it's wonderful, and I'd love to contribute. But I've got no idea what to say...I've never been bullied for being LGBT...things have been pretty good, and there really aren't many ways that it could get better, for me.

Will have to think about this one.
how about "if you are my friend and you are gay and I don't know it, I love you...and I think you are perfectly fine...and if you don't feel like you have a friend, know that are are people in the world who will feel the same way about you"
 
I'll never forget the time that my son's preschool called me in for a parent teacher conference, because his teacher had concerns.

When I got there, his teacher told me that DS and his best friend A, had been hugging too much ... at age three and a half. (A is Israeli and comes from a culture and family in which hugging is perfectly okay, regardless of gender.)


So I sat there for a minute, then I said, "Are you telling me that you're worried that my not-yet-four-year-old is GAY? Not that anyone could possibly know that a decade before puberty, but, since you bring it up, if he's gay, that's perfectly fine with me!" Then I gathered up my toddler and stomped the heck out of that poisonous place. Blech! When I told a GF this story one day last week, she said, "That's right! As a parent, you're going to support your kids, no matter how hard it is." And I thought to myself that she was missing the point. If DS is gay (or not,) I'll love him because he is who he is, not in spite of it.

Homophobia is everywhere and is more-or-less socially acceptable.

Anyway. I digress.


If you don't feel like you can do the film, there are still little things you can do -- like get a Safe Space magnet or card to display. Those little things can make a big difference.
 
my son struggled and wondered, and asked himself lots of questions, probably even experiemented, he seems to have come up with "not" or "bi".....for us, it was never relevant to us...our only concern was the agony we knew he would go through simply trying to live his life...but to us, whatever conclusions he comes to, all we want for him is his happiness out of the truth of who he is...all I ever want for my kids is for them to be able to be totally who they are ...and it deeply saddens me that I know that so many of their peers do not enjoy that security from their own families
 
Huh.

In late-middle/high school the friends I had and I all said "I love you" to each other on a regular basis, and it was very common for us to hug each other. I still do hug those friends with some frequency--it's like punctuation--and I tell friends that i love them all the time. (Often in an "I love you dearly, but you are freakin' nuts" sort of way.) My parents freaked out.

I don't know if they'd have kicked me out if I was gay, or how they would have handled it. I don't think they would have actually thrown me out of the house, but I don't think it would have been a pleasant experience at all. I know the thought of gay marriage, or anything else gay, still gets my mom agitated and makes my father very uncomfortable. Shrug. They are who they are. It it interesting, though, when it comes up and they voice the usual objections and stereotypes...knowing that one of my roommates, and close friends, who they know and adore and just think is wonderful...is bi. Heh...if only they knew.

Being not straight is just one of those "what-ifs" that I ponder from time to time...
 
One of my very best friends is bi, has known it all of his life. Which is fine. What still bothers me a little is that I knew him almost two years before he felt safe telling me.

I wish he'd felt safe with me sooner. *sigh*
 
Status
Not open for further replies.

Dance Ads

Advertise on Dance Forums Reach dancers, teachers, studios, event organizers, and dance-friendly brands. View ad options
Back
Top