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Would be grateful if you could expand on what you mean by reserved in this instance.Good choice. Except for Paris, where I didn't dance, I can confirm all the suggestions. Unfortunately, Milan is a bit reserved.
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Would be grateful if you could expand on what you mean by reserved in this instance.Good choice. Except for Paris, where I didn't dance, I can confirm all the suggestions. Unfortunately, Milan is a bit reserved.
It's certainly not a universal rule; it depended on the day of the week and the specific milonga. I usually find my way around milongas abroad quickly because I socialize a lot and don't stand around like a lone wolf cabeceoing from the dark corner. But in Milan, socializing was difficult. The scene was cliquey and only invited people within its own circles. It was a bit better a week later in Genoa. The scene there was also bit cliquey. I liked the milongas in Venice and Rome the best. People there are open and friendly...could expand on what you mean by reserved in this instance.
Ooof, cliques. They are destructive.It's certainly not a universal rule; it depended on the day of the week and the specific milonga. I usually find my way around milongas abroad quickly because I socialize a lot and don't stand around like a lone wolf cabeceoing from the dark corner. But in Milan, socializing was difficult. The scene was cliquey and only invited people within its own circles. It was a bit better a week later in Genoa. The scene there was also bit cliquey. I liked the milongas in Venice and Rome the best. People there are open and friendly.
Just call them groups of friends or neighbors who have a lot to talk about. Not everyone wants to dance at the milonga, and some limit their dancing to close acquaintances...cliques. They are destructive.
This is a relatively new, value-based code of conduct that reflects the social dynamics required for a modern milonga to function.Ooof, cliques. They are destructive.
Interesting. Can you explain why that is? Does it relate to numbers of followers vs leaders, or is it due to something else? St Petersburg is not really viable currently and Seoul is a bit far for me, but I am taking note in the case of Barcelona.I think the list of cities also depends a bit if you are a lead or follow. Cities like Buenos Aires, Instanbul, Paris or Tokyo might be praised by a ton of followers but leads might do better in cities like Barcelona, St. Petersburg or Seoul.
I think the list of cities also depends a bit if you are a lead or follow. Cities like Buenos Aires, Instanbul, Paris or Tokyo might be praised by a ton of followers but leads might do better in cities like Barcelona, St. Petersburg or Seoul.
I remember very early on someone suggested that the best leaders were Turkish and the best followers Russian, and it seemed absurd to me to characterise entire nationalities in this way. However, I have to say that the Russian followers I've danced with have been almost universally amazing, so who knows?!Does it relate to numbers of followers vs leaders, or is it due to something else?
Istanbul is great but it you are an improver leader, delay your trip. It is heaven for women but as a leader you are competing with many good leaders.ChatGPT has informed me that Paris, Rome, Barcelona, Istanbul and Berlin are the best European cities for a tango weekend. And possibly Milan also.
Being selective does not mean being part of a clique. They are different. Cliques are exclusive by definition.This is a relatively new, value-based code of conduct that reflects the social dynamics required for a modern milonga to function.
However, if you scrutinize the idea that you should less dance with your partner, old friends, or class partners - simply to accommodate strangers - especially when you have no desire to dance to boring music with boring partners, and then consider how few tandas actually remain, the concept quickly becomes vague.
The smallest form of a clique is a committed partnership - omething that is explicitly protected by traditional códigos.
Aside from the negative connotation, I see no practical difference between a "clique" and a "peer group".Being selective does not mean being part of a clique. They are different. Cliques are exclusive by definition.
Don’t neglect some of the not-so-big-and-famous cities. Many have decent scenes and a good number of places to dance. Smaller scenes are sometimes more welcoming to visitors. But more planning needs to be done to hit the right events.ChatGPT has informed me that Paris, Rome, Barcelona, Istanbul and Berlin are the best European cities for a tango weekend. And possibly Milan also.
For these cities, let's call them 'second tier' for the sake of clarity...is it only recommended to go to such places when there is a particular event on? I'm happy to hear about any lesser-known tango hotspots, particularly in europeDon’t neglect some of the not-so-big-and-famous cities. Many have decent scenes and a good number of places to dance. Smaller scenes are sometimes more welcoming to visitors. But more planning needs to be done to hit the right events.
I had the pleasure of meeting up with @itwillhappen and meeting his wonderful girlfriend last week for a couple of milongas. They were noticed as visitors and seemed welcomed. Our local scene is used to out-of-towners, though, since it’s a vacation destination and a place people pass through on their way to other vacation destinations.
For these cities, let's call them 'second tier' for the sake of clarity...is it only recommended to go to such places when there is a particular event on? I'm happy to hear about any lesser-known tango hotspots, particularly in europe