How to flirt, and why.

madmaximus said:
hmm...

I would have gone with: "You know, you look so regal when you have your hair like so..." spoken with just a little wonderment, held for a moment, followed by a smile, let the moment pass, and then followed by "shall we dance?" or something trite like that.

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and surely with your trademark head tilt as well? ;)
 
danceronice said:
Not to mention if you're having a bad day already, why tempt fate? THAT will be the day the cat's underfoot and the phone's ringing while the pot's boiling over and you forget the handle's not insulated....
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Why, that's just an opportunity to practice my floorcraft!
 
Joe said:
I get the feeling WW isn't quite as coordinated--or have the same amount of experience--at it as you.
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hah.

include me in the category of kitchen dancers...

as for flirting... i tend to uniformly & spontaneously express appreciation of all sorts to both men & women, in ways that could be construed as flirting but definitely has no sexual or romantic charge behind it, whatsoever.

by contrast, i very-rarely-almost-never flirt with enticing intent because i associate it with seduction, which i would invoke only when i mean it. :cool: my closets have been long-decluttered of all remnant drama that may have found its way there through irresponsible or unconscious use of my...enticing...energies. and i am happy to keep them that way, thank-you-very-much.

okay, so here's a question for the group... what do you think the boundary is between flirtation and seduction?
 
I consider flirtation to be more playful. Seduction implies to be a bit more intensity. Seduction can employ elements that are not a part of flirting, foremost of which is creation of the right ambience of sensation (sensual would be the right word, but connotations have drifted away from its original meaning). It could include gifts, clothing, food, atmosphere...
 
toothlesstiger said:
I consider flirtation to be more playful. Seduction implies to be a bit more intensity. Seduction can employ elements that are not a part of flirting, foremost of which is creation of the right ambience of sensation (sensual would be the right word, but connotations have drifted away from its original meaning). It could include gifts, clothing, food, atmosphere...
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its the difference between the way an octopus catches a fish and an an angler fish catches its prey

the latter lures; the former just suckers her/him in....
 
I would say touch is involved, but not necessarily kiss.

There's a guy who's had a crush on me for ... I don't know ... a year? I've flirted with him but, as I have mentioned several times, I'm not dating, so I haven't taken things any further. Anyway. One day last week, I came to work in an exuberant mood. When I ran into him in the cafeteria that morning, we got into conversation about something, and I unintentionally, reflexively touched him, casually on the arm.

Oh.my.goodness! Things are now on a totally different level that may need to be de-escalated. I didn't mean to touch the guy, fer goodness sake.
 
samina said:
as for flirting... i tend to uniformly & spontaneously express appreciation of all sorts to both men & women, in ways that could be construed as flirting but definitely has no sexual or romantic charge behind it, whatsoever.

by contrast, i very-rarely-almost-never flirt with enticing intent because i associate it with seduction, which i would invoke only when i mean it.
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THIS! THIS! I've been told often and by completely different kinds of people that I flirt all the time. Could have fooled me, but apparently, other people construe my behavior -- what Samina refers to as uniformly & spontaneously express[ing] appreciation, as flirtation. Intent. And context. They're crucial. Flirting with intent is seduction.
 
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