How to swap teachers...diplomatically?

I went through this situation a few years ago. It was tough because I loved this teacher but I realized that he was not the best person for not only my dancing but my partners dancing as well.
We had reached a state where we had "grown up" and needed to move on. We started to not agree on certain aspect of dancing. He was very dogmatic in his approach and didn't accept certain ideas. Eventually we just didn't schedule with him and he didn't call us. We all got the idea.
When its time to leave, its time to leave. If your instructor is mature, he will understand. If not, then you really shouldn't be there anyway.
 
dancingirldancing said:
Problem is they are teaching in the same studio.

Otherwise I can tell him I am moving houses or something.....LOL !

I dont want to break his heart but I dont want to spend hundreds of dollar of something that I think has no value either !
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This has already been mentioned, but I'm going to echo it again: people who lie, especially for the sake of their own comfort, are not mature, and do not consider lying as an option to get out of an uncomfortable situation. Be straight but kind, and face these kinds of situations, and you'll get run over less by others in life. People will respect you for being honest and if they do not, then they are themselves not yet mature adults.
 
You could try the method that a couple of my ex students used ...Just do not show up for two back to back lessons, and then do not answer your phone...ha !
 
I think key here is that if the lessons are scheduled, you owe an explanation, if they aren't you don't neccessarily owe an explanation, but if you are going to be seeing the pro regularly, IMO, it is the decent thing to do
 
Is the instructor likely to play the big green eyes and hurt look card? I've never been able to trump that, especially if there's a quivering lip.
 
Were you dating him? If not, then why the "broken heart?" It's a business, you're supposed to be adults. Be polite, be vague, be quick, get it done and move on.

Yes, I had to break up with a teacher once. I had been taking from him for 7 1/2 years and I decided after one comp that I really preferred to stop doing Pro/Am and just focus on Amateur. So I said exactly that, and that was that. I felt weird and shaky when I was doing it, but it was better to just get it done quickly and move on to the next phase of my dancing.
 
Sooner or later all of us are going to have to go through this I think. I also broke up with a teacher who had been very good to me - but he was 7 inches shorter and I could not compete with him (e.g. lesson: to get into position stick your butt out..). I was up front and told him before looking for a new pro (which was probably overkill but it certainly helped our relationship down the line). He was upset but now he has become one of my biggest dance supporters.

[Hi R, in case you are watching, :kissme: )
 
My main problem with this teacher is not about his ability but I feel like he is witholding information from me. He used to win a lot of professional competition in his days.

The other teacher treats me like an advanced competitor when working very heavily on techniques.

This teacher just keeps on going about practising 'bronze' for at least 6 months without any substantial technique correction.

I have been doing gold and open routines for years now and I dont really know what is the purpose of doing bronze without significant technique improvements.

I just feel like there is no value in the lesson short of practising things over and over again.

I can do that by myself.

Hmm.....see if I have the gut to pull out soon.
 
I've always heard that just because someone was or is a good dancer, that doesn't make them a good teacher and vice versa. It could be he needs a little more experience as a teacher. But if you feel he is holding you back then it really isn't necessary for you continue with him. Especially if you are not growing as a dancer. Thats my two cents...
 
nucat78 said:
Is the instructor likely to play the big green eyes and hurt look card? I've never been able to trump that, especially if there's a quivering lip.
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Mine surely would ... that is the other thing everytime I tell him what I want he actually try to talk me out of it and make me do what HE wants in a very manipulative and patronizing way.
 
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