How to swap teachers...diplomatically?

Whether he may be trying to help you or not, it clearly isn't helping you emotionally, etc. Definitely talk to him, and if things eithe rdon't change ,or he can't explain what he is aiming for to your satisfaction, should probably start looking elsewhere. I get frustrated with both my pros often, but I learn in every single lesson. My frustration is generally actually really frustration with myself, redirected to them (like when I hear for fifth lesson in a row that I need to use my sides, or keep tension on hands for lead, etc). It seems like this isn't case for you, it's just frustration, and it's coming to a boil.
 
thats what I'm reading too etp - looks like the time for negotiation/discussion/polite talk may already have passed...

snd so to be...
 
Maybe I am completely reading this wrong ... but DGD sounds like when she talks about walking thru steps, she is being literal. Walking thru steps with no idea if better or worse because teacher is not stating one way or the other and she sees he is teaching differently with other students. PLUS she is taking lessons also from another teacher(s) and they may be actually expounding on basics with techniques, etc. to make the basics stronger)

Like for instance.
DGD: basic box step over and over

Teacher: does not say anything

DGD: does basic box step over and over

Teacher:still says nothing

When it should be:
DGD: basic box step over and over

Teacher: OK you rise on the, lower on the... (waltz toe, heel, toe, toe heel, heel, toe, toe, toe, heel - or what have you) ... this much sway, head position, blah blah blah ...

DGD: same basic box step, improving on with compression or lowering on standing leg swing sway blah blah ...

Teacher: either works on same or adds component to get DGD to make the basic better.

I sorta feel like she is being slammed on whether she should judge if he is good or not. Ergo WHY (from my take on her posts) she is asking the question.
 
dancingirldancing said:
Well, he is skilled alright .... just because someone knows something does not mean that he may want to share it with you ?

Oh GOD of dancing on the other hand is a whole different level IMHO.

Not sure about that....
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again...you should be able to tell if he is withholding technical stuff, not just steps, or not...if you can't tell...you might not be where you think you are
 
dancingirldancing said:
Okay I dont want to start an argument.

Let's assume:

Me --> Crap beginner level dancer with no talent asking too much
Him --> Excellent teacher

Basic Point --> He made me miserable, dancing is supposedly making me happy

Conclusion --> Will find another teacher who will take crappy dancer like me and treat me with a little bit more respect

That is it.

I will call him today actually.

Thanks for the feedback.
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no one knows what your skill is...crappy or not....but sometimes, to get from crappy to good, some short -term happiness has to be sacrificed...not sure how he treated you ...but you are right ...it is your decision...folks here just tried to provide input that you solicited...certainly you are entitled to assess the situation and make a switch
 
elisedance said:
I really think communication has broken down and also that you've already decided - try someone else....
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agree about the communication with the caveat that both persons are responsible for communication so DGD needs to make sure that she is not part of that break-down...or the process will repeat
 
maybe...maybe not...I have seen alot of dancers drift from teacher to teacher and not improve b/c the problem wasn't the teacher...obviously, I don't know this dancer but it is a possibility...at a certain point learning slows if independent study isn't being done...
 
Well, considering I'm a better dancer now more than ever... I'd say it's worth a shot. You'll never know until you actually seek lessons with someone else. We can sit here and think "well maybe.. well maybe not.. or what if..." whatever, just do what YOU feel is right, dancingirl. :)
 
ps - Fasci I do agree with you :). It's not always the teacher, absolutely. But at the end of the day if your conclusion is "I'm not improving" the blame game becomes irrelevant. So, DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
 
Bella said:
Well, considering I'm a better dancer now more than ever... I'd say it's worth a shot. You'll never know until you actually seek lessons with someone else. We can sit here and think "well maybe.. well maybe not.. or what if..." whatever, just do what YOU feel is right dancingirl. :)
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sure that isn't up for debate...her first post wasn't whether or not she should punt him...but how...obviously she has no respect for the guy...and she may be right...but, one should always do a thorough soul search when a match goes afoul...in order to learn something
 
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