[...] are you saying encuentros lack variety?
You were at least in part joking, but even so:
Despite not being invited to encuentros nearly as often as my ego – however small I try to keep it – would like, I apparently fall into the category "acceptable to share photos and videos with, just not to invite." The videos, especially, give me the sense that encuentros
do lack variety. There's a distinctive "encuentro style" that's almost as well-defined as "Mundial style," and which seems to privilege parallel-system movements, linearity, and pauses over constant, fluid system changes and turns.
But there are many who won't dance with another because they're 'not sufficiently competent', don't want that abrazo, don't engage with my abrazo, don't dance the style I want, like the music I like, don't accept the traditions I like... (see other threads), or some past event. OK, they have their own, limited, tango world.
That's fair. I think that despite our bold words, every one of us participating in this discussion has their own, limited tango world. That's a good thing, too, because "variety is the spice of life" isn't just a clever saying . . . It means that if, eventually, you get bored, there's always something new to explore.
Yes, of course. Like tango doesn't become pointless for you either, just because you don't put in the intensity that others would prefer. It might get pointless for them.
Interestingly, there's a group of tangueras who like to dance with me
because I dance with intensity. They discuss this unambiguously among themselves and with me, in person and on social media. I think that if I suddenly dialed back the intensity, I'd lose certain partners. Whether I'd gain others is anybody's guess . . . I imagine there are tangueras who like tangueros who dance with calm, with elegance, with romance, etc.
Their tango world isn't small and limited at all: There are so many shared similarities left: philosophizing about Piazzolla, the best record player, the next visiting tango maestro, the next tango vacation, the best parquet floor in town, tango photos, tango paintings and (very important) talking about dance shoes.
These are the common threads between people with different tango worlds. Disagreeing about steps, orquestas, floors, DJs, shoes, who knocked over the chair, etc. appears to be the glue the binds all these worlds together into a community.

I've seen Unrepentant Nuevo Guy and Conservative "Like in Buenos Aires" Guy bond over disliking the damned tango tourists who took all the best tables.