Intro & ? about when you visit other cities....

[tj]

My other attempt was when I was in Denver last July. That is actually how I found the board. I found a thread where someone had posted about where to go salsa dancing in Denver. It mentioned a place called the Blue Ice. I confirmed that it was "The" place to go with a local salsa instructor.

We rock here in Denver don't we!! 8) Tell him tj :lol: I'm glad you enjoyed your swing through our little salsa universe here. And hopefully it was one of my threads on Denver clubs that helped.

Heh! As "just a visitor" to Denver nowadays, I was hesitant to speak of the scene myself and figured that you'd chime in! Yeah, I like the Denver scene, but it also helps that I know a lot of folks there. I consider it "cheating" if you're coming back to a place where you're already well established by having lots of friends there.

 

[cierre boca y baile]

It's still going on Fridays, but it's more of a LaRumba crowd now meaning many of the dancers don't really go there anymore. It's a roll of the dice.

So is there another place that I should check out on a Friday?

 

[ArtsySalsera]

My local scene is follower-heavy, so guys have it pretty easy & we girls have to actively ask (the saying goes: "You don't ask, you don't dance.")!

Salsachinita, Thank you for posting this reply. I'm always wondering why myself and my girlfriends usually do a lot of the asking. We've been told and given signs that we are very good dancers. The guys don't usually ask and I was wondering why. Think I'll start another thread on this. It's just good to know that we aren't the only ones with the only community like this and the possible reasons why.

 

[Kindra]

The only time it would bother me is if a girl I didn't enjoy dancing with kept asking me over and over. I'd say ask a guy no more than 2 or 3 times and if he doesn't ask you after that then move on.

Thank you for that advice! It's a good reminder...

After going out for the first time -in a long while- on Monday (had an amazing time, btw!), I'll be curious to see what tonight is like, assuming I will see alot of familiar faces from Monday. I hope I made a good enough impression with some of those amazing Salseros...I'de sure love to dance with them again!

Is it safe to assume that most compliments are genuine? And if they are,
does that mean they are enjoying the dance enough..that they will most likely want to dance again?

 

[tj]

The only time it would bother me is if a girl I didn't enjoy dancing with kept asking me over and over. I'd say ask a guy no more than 2 or 3 times and if he doesn't ask you after that then move on.

Thank you for that advice! It's a good reminder...

After going out for the first time -in a long while- on Monday (had an amazing time, btw!), I'll be curious to see what tonight is like, assuming I will see alot of familiar faces from Monday.

To a certain degree, yes, you'll see some familiar faces at Zanzibar, but you'll also be surprised (at least I am), at how many different folks are at each of these different clubs/nights here in the area.

I hope I made a good enough impression with some of those amazing Salseros...I'de sure love to dance with them again!

Ok, I'm finally pretty much over this cold. Could you save me a dance?
:wink:

Is it safe to assume that most compliments are genuine? And if they are,
does that mean they are enjoying the dance enough..that they will most likely want to dance again?

Yes, I think so. I can count on one hand the amount of times where a compliment proved to be insincere. Either that, or the compliment is one of the "back-handed" variety.

 

[Vin]

The only time it would bother me is if a girl I didn't enjoy dancing with kept asking me over and over. I'd say ask a guy no more than 2 or 3 times and if he doesn't ask you after that then move on.

Thank you for that advice! It's a good reminder...

After going out for the first time -in a long while- on Monday (had an amazing time, btw!), I'll be curious to see what tonight is like, assuming I will see alot of familiar faces from Monday. I hope I made a good enough impression with some of those amazing Salseros...I'de sure love to dance with them again!

Is it safe to assume that most compliments are genuine? And if they are,
does that mean they are enjoying the dance enough..that they will most likely want to dance again?

I don't know about anyone else but you made a great impression with me. See you guys tonight.

 

[Kindra]

To a certain degree, yes, you'll see some familiar faces at Zanzibar, but you'll also be surprised (at least I am), at how many different folks are at each of these different clubs/nights here in the area.

That's good to know! The scene is that big, eh??

Ok, I'm finally pretty much over this cold. Could you save me a dance?

I'm SOOOO glad you are feeling better. And of course I will save you a dance...I better not have to hunt you down. :wink:

Either that, or the compliment is one of the "back-handed" variety.

Is the "back-handed variety" when you compliment someone back because they've just offered you a compliment?? --Just confirming :shock:

 

[tj]

To a certain degree, yes, you'll see some familiar faces at Zanzibar, but you'll also be surprised (at least I am), at how many different folks are at each of these different clubs/nights here in the area.

That's good to know! The scene is that big, eh??

Yes, I've been here about 6-7 months, and there are still plenty of good dancers that I haven't danced with!

Ok, I'm finally pretty much over this cold. Could you save me a dance?

I'm SOOOO glad you are feeling better. And of course I will save you a dance...I better not have to hunt you down. :wink:

I'll have one of the guys point you out to me. :wink:

Either that, or the compliment is one of the "back-handed" variety.

Is the "back-handed variety" when you compliment someone back because they've just offered you a compliment?? --Just confirming :shock:

Heh, no... a back-handed compliment is one of those compliments that sounds like a compliment at first, but sorta isn't... I tend to just ignore that aspect of it, and treat it as a genuine compliment. It'll come out later if it truly was back-handed or not.

 

[Kindra]

I don't know about anyone else but you made a great impression with me.

That's good to know! :wink: Even though I don't know whether I dance on1 or on2??? :shock: :lol:

 

[Vin]

I don't know about anyone else but you made a great impression with me.

That's good to know! :wink: Even though I don't know whether I dance on1 or on2??? :shock: :lol:

you followed both well with me and that is all that I care about

 

[cierre boca y baile]

Thank you for that advice! It's a good reminder...

After going out for the first time -in a long while- on Monday (had an amazing time, btw!), I'll be curious to see what tonight is like, assuming I will see alot of familiar faces from Monday. I hope I made a good enough impression with some of those amazing Salseros...I'de sure love to dance with them again!

Is it safe to assume that most compliments are genuine? And if they are,
does that mean they are enjoying the dance enough..that they will most likely want to dance again?

I may have been a little quick in my advice. If you want to know if the guy really likes dancing with you, use it, because if I really liked dancing with a girl, I would sure ask her. If they don't and you want to dance with them go head and ask, at least until they say no .

I can't think of too many reasons to give a compliment about dancing that isn't genuine and even fewer reasons to compliment someone I didn't want to dance with again.

The only ones I can come up with would be maybe if I were an instructor (which I'm not) and wanted someone to enroll in my class or if they asked a question like...how did I do? I wouldn't tell them they were horrible even if they were .

It always amazes me at all the compliments I get and I mean more than just "your a great dancer". I used to just think...oh they are just being nice, but I've come to believe that they are being sincere. I also still take a lot of them with a grain of salt in that...from people that really haven't danced much, most dancers look awesome...so I try not to get a swelled head from it or anything.

 

[Kindra]

It always amazes me at all the compliments I get and I mean more than just "your a great dancer". I used to just think...oh they are just being nice, but I've come to believe that they are being sincere.

I'm going to take the compliments (from the ones I enjoyed dancing with) on Monday as a sortof invitation for me to ask them to dance next... that's a safe assumption, right?? :wink:

I will admit though, sometimes I have a hard time judging whether the compliments are because they really just like the way I dance...or if it's because they are hitting on me. It's hard to tell sometimes! Some can really over do it with the complimenting...I just don't find it necessary to lay it on so thick with words. (it's those I question, because I really enjoy dancing with them)
I guess if it makes me slightly uncomfortable or causes me to question, it is probably the latter... :shock:

 

[cierre boca y baile]

I'm going to take the compliments (from the ones I enjoyed dancing with) on Monday as a sortof invitation for me to ask them to dance next... that's a safe assumption, right?? :wink:

I will admit though, sometimes I have a hard time judging whether the compliments are because they really just like the way I dance...or if it's because they are hitting on me. It's hard to tell sometimes! Some can really over do it with the complimenting...I just don't find it necessary to lay it on so thick with words. (it's those I question, because I really enjoy dancing with them)
I guess if it makes me slightly uncomfortable or causes me to question, it is probably the latter... :shock:

Well, I thought the main point you were wanting to know was if they wanted to dance with you again. I'd say whether that liked your dancing or your looks, it's safe to say "Yes, they want to dance with you again" :wink:

 

[youngsta]

It's still going on Fridays, but it's more of a LaRumba crowd now meaning many of the dancers don't really go there anymore. It's a roll of the dice.

So is there another place that I should check out on a Friday?

No there really isn't another option unfortunately. Maybe I'll go check it out soon to see how the crowd is.

 

[delamusica]

It's still going on Fridays, but it's more of a LaRumba crowd now meaning many of the dancers don't really go there anymore. It's a roll of the dice.

So is there another place that I should check out on a Friday?

No there really isn't another option unfortunately. Maybe I'll go check it out soon to see how the crowd is.

The last few times I've been there, there were some good dancers but the floor was WAY too crowded - you could hardly dance at all, let alone play around if you were with somebody good.