Men We Love -- And Why We Love Them

[j_alexandra]

I got thinking about this earlier, when I was being silly on the Yesterday thread. There are men I just adore, and sometimes, there are reasons.

My contractor, who is re-doing my downstairs half bath. I adore this kid, and it's not b/c of the rippling muscles under the tattoos, and not his political opinions, taste in music, etc. It's b/c he cares so much, about everything he does. His music. His surfing. His baby and GF (back together, now, and looking better for the future). And his work. From the day we first met, I was gaga over the way he takes his work seriously. I mean, he beveled the tile below the window frame, and is completely committed to making sure the space around the plug is perfectly fitted. To the tune of cut after cut after cut.

*That's* lovable, imho. So, what's lovable to you?

Photos attached, I hope.

 

[wonderwoman]

That's a good guy there.

 

[samina]

what a sweet guy...and sweet idea for a thread JA. glad to hear they're back together! i know how much it was upsetting him. best wishes for their future as a family...

what do i find lovable about a man? trustworthiness, gentleness, candor, authenticity, welcome, warmth, and open-heartedness. irresistible combo. have been finding that these qualities are often enough to overcome other personal traits that i find extremely attractive. it's these deeper qualities that really make for abiding love & appreciation, IME.

i have a number of men in my life like this, am happy to say...my children included.

 

[j_alexandra]

what do i find lovable about a man? trustworthiness, gentleness, candor, authenticity, welcome, warmth, and open-heartedness. irresistible combo. have been finding that these qualities are often enough to overcome other personal traits that i find extremely attractive. it's these deeper qualities that really make for abiding love & appreciation, IME.

i have a number of men in my life like this, am happy to say...my children included.

Wow -- a number, and your sons in that group. Lucky you; I'm glad to meet them when I do meet them, not often enough imho. And I try to keep them around as long as I can.

 

[Joe]

Why is it important to bevel the tiles under the frame?

 

[waltzguy]

j_a, but does your contractor dance, that's the question

 

[wonderwoman]

j_a, but does your contractor dance, that's the question

Very subtle

 

[Angel HI]

...trustworthiness, gentleness, candor, authenticity, welcome, warmth, and open-heartedness. irresistible combo. have been finding that these qualities are often enough to overcome other personal traits that i find extremely attractive. it's these deeper qualities that really make for abiding love & appreciation, IME.

Gee, Sam, seems you do know me quite well.......

 

[samina]

Gee, Sam, seems you do know me quite well.......

aaaah, angel... i'm not surprised. not at all.

 

[j_alexandra]

Why is it important to bevel the tiles under the frame?

It looks good; tiles are deeper than window molding, and there's no jarring edge between them, just a nice slope to edges that meet. And did I mention it looks good?

 

[j_alexandra]

j_a, but does your contractor dance, that's the question

Not yet . But he is both a musician and a martial artist, so there's hope.

 

[j_alexandra]

trustworthiness, gentleness, candor, authenticity, welcome, warmth, and open-heartedness.

A man who's good with animals is often lovable. If critters trust him, he usually has most of Sam's list.

 

[Joe]

It looks good; tiles are deeper than window molding, and there's no jarring edge between them, just a nice slope to edges that meet. And did I mention it looks good?

Unless he's grouting between tiles and frame, it looks to me like he beveled too deeply...

 

[j_alexandra]

Unless he's grouting between tiles and frame, it looks to me like he beveled too deeply...

No, just a bad photo.

 

[fascination]

courage, commitment and forgiveness....the rest is frosting