Men We Love -- And Why We Love Them

Given the internal characteristics of a good man that Samina and Fasc has provided (either on this thread or another), would it be a good corollary to say that an existing solid friendship forms a better basis for dating, versus meeting someone for the purpose of dating?
 
certainly policy I've gone by, WG

Of course, considering I spend most of my time single, maybe i'm not best person to give advice on this subject. :)
 
waltzguy said:
Given the internal characteristics of a good man that Samina and Fasc has provided (either on this thread or another), would it be a good corollary to say that an existing solid friendship forms a better basis for dating, versus meeting someone for the purpose of dating?
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I strongly agree with this corollary!
 
etp777 said:
Of course, considering I spend most of my time single, maybe i'm not best person to give advice on this subject. :)
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etp, I've seen a few buddy friends of mine have the hardest time dating, then one day, bam!, I'm sitting as a guest in their wedding

true story
 
waltzguy said:
Given the internal characteristics of a good man that Samina and Fasc has provided (either on this thread or another), would it be a good corollary to say that an existing solid friendship forms a better basis for dating, versus meeting someone for the purpose of dating?
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i'd say that a solid friendship, for me anyway, needs to be at the core. but there are so many ways "true friends" can meet...and IMO "dating" is as viable a start as any other. just depends on how you view and use that approach...
 
I was beyond convinced that I'd never end up getting married. Not for lack of desire, just because I'd never had a s.o., and didn't much see how that was going to change. I'd actually gotten kind of comfortable with the idea. Then...met guy, knew guy was The One, engaged 3 years later, married a year after that. Would have gotten married that first year (well, except for the proposing and whatnot) except getting hitched as a sophomore in college without a car or means of support would have been stupid.
 
The qualities I like best in a man are actually very similar to the qualities I like best in a woman. So I think for me, this is more of a "People I love--and why I love them" than a list specifically dedicated to men.

-Intelligence.

-Respect for me and what I do. The greatest compliment someone can pay me is to take my ideas seriously. If someone reads a book based on my recommendation, I feel validated.

-Wit, sense of humor, the ability to laugh at oneself.

-The ability to be a good listener. The ability not just to be in the room while I'm talking, but really to hear what I'm saying and understand.

-Passion for at least one thing that matters. (Arts, politics, the welfare of others in the community, etc.)

-Compassion, empathy, the ability to put oneself in someone else's shoes.

Those are at least the basics.
 
etp777 said:
Everyone on DF obviously has that one covered. :)
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Probably why I enjoy hanging out here so much!

(Though dang, how come you have more than 5 times as many posts as I do, etp777? I thought I was on here a lot, but clearly I'm a slacker! And I've been on here since December 2004!)
 
etp777 said:
what can I say ccm, I talk a lot. Which may disqualify me on your good listener requirement. ;)
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I'm sure the two can be compatible.

It's the quality of the listening that matters, not whether you also like to talk. :)

Plus, as someone who in essence talks for a living, I'm sure I could go head to head with you in the talking a lot department. ;)
 
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