Post-dance euphoria

africana

africana

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went to another one of those excellent socials lastnight and after a particularly awesome dance i did what Vin said he's done after a really great dance.
we were just ectastically hugging each other, celebrating when I blurted out (for the first time ever to a dance partner) "I love you" :lol:
he didn't hear it I think :rolleyes: but it would have been cool if he did bcause we seem to be just on the same wavelength, we have that high level undrstnding of kindred spirits

it's amazing because he's a new lead in the scene, totally fresh jazzy style, and very much into spontaneous & expressive musical interpretation as I am.
So of course we dance often, and everytime it's satisfactory because he *gets* the mambo, and we have consistently shared several mambo nirvanas :D

but this one dance was so goood my mouth just blurted out those words before my brain could catch up haaaha

mmm phenomenal!! so what do most people do with post-dance euphoria? Take a smoke? well I don't smoke, but sometimes I feel like I should! :raisebro: when words fail to capture just how happy & deeply satisfied I get after some dances. man!!!!
 
Hey africana!

Whenever I've just had an amazing dance that's taken me to new heights, I need to go calm myself down. Feels like, wow, was that really me dancing? It also feels kinda frustrating, cos I know there's nothing I can do to 'grasp' it, or recreate it. It's just lost in the moment and the more I try to get it back, the harder it gets.

I wanna know how I did all that stuff!!! *grrrrr* Sadly, it's unknowable, that's the thing, it only comes when I let go of my critical mind.

Hugging is great though, spontaneous expression of apprecieation and shared joy. Not sure I've ever blurted out those 3 little words though!
 
Oh No, I've never actually said it, I have thought it, but never just came out with it.
 
I KNOW that feeling!! it is the most amazing thing in this world isn't it?
It has happened to me a few times and i just want to grab the guy and start kissing him. lol
Unfortunately it does not happen very often to find someone that can completely suit you and make you feel that you can dance with him/her the whole night. I always try to dance with people i haven't danced before just to see if i will find somebody like THAT!!

I think that not being able to replicate this feeling is frustrating but i thing the most frustrating thing is that you can not know who is going to make you feel like that. For instance, many times i see a guy dancing and i think "Wow great dancing. I will get him in the next song". And although he is a great dancer once i start dancing with him there is nothing there. No connection at all. It is like we are two people dancing individually not together.

Anyway back to the topic. THIS is the most extraodinary feeling in the whole darn world and I am glad that you are able to experience it. Keep going and find more dancers that make you feel lilke that!!!
 
Vin said:
Oh No, I've never actually said it, I have thought it, but never just came out with it.
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oops :doh:
guess I'll be the first altho he's not my romantic 'type' ;) so it's alright

hi Sobrero! long time no see
Yes the connection issue can be tricky but I find that it's possible to get repeatably enjoyable connection for a lot of the reasons we discussed in the thread "Not Compatible?"

Of course there are other factors that enhance the dance even more, bringing connection to such a high level
- an important one for me is having a shared intuition and responsibilty for maximizing our musical expressiveness (especially those really groovy old skool mambo numbers). Finding partners with whom I can do that with is rare, but there are a few :cool:

Also the effortless feel of a dance is very important - for instance, my friend in OP has a very light lead, which allows me to take the intiative to follow well, to be light, and do all that with my personal styling. And it doesn't take away from the complexity of his patterns or styling. It's basically a rich trust exercise, all flow, no struggle :cool:
and the neatest thing is that every dance, including the first, has been great
I think it's the music that makes some dances a bit more phenomenal

btw I had other wonderful, highly engaging dances with other guys (including one notable from NYC) but it's usually just big smiles & hugs at the end (and insomnia ;0)
i wonder what'll happen if i start saying "I love you" after every great dance lol!!
 
btw anyone else have insomnia issues after a really great night?? 5 years and I still have em, don't have a good solution to it besides sleeping in :)
 
I know what you mean when you say effortless feel!!
My first salsa teacher, back in Greece, has the sam type of lead where you sort of dance and feel like you are ... flowing. it is great! Even though i have danced with a lot of great guys here in the UK, maybe better dancers as well, i always remember his lead.
And I always dance with him when i go back for vacation!

SO i am not the only one that has insomnia issues!!!
Wandering around the kitchen... eating chocolate... taking a shower... brushing my teeth once, twice, three times.... combing my hair many times ( i do not even comb them that much when i go out!!!)

Nice to know i have some company
lol

Sobrero
 
It's a rare dance where I get that level of euphoria, that's what makes it so special.

I've done the same thing everytime:

* Hug my partner and laugh.
* Feel temporarily dazed and not knowing exactly what just happened.
* Retreat to a corner of the room, sit down, relax, and smile.
* Eventually rejoin the dancers.
 
africana said:
btw anyone else have insomnia issues after a really great night?? 5 years and I still have em, don't have a good solution to it besides sleeping in :)
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Yes I do. I also get them if I've danced for long.
I've just learnt to accept that I won't get enough sleep that night.
 
ash88 said:
It's a rare dance where I get that level of euphoria, that's what makes it so special.

I've done the same thing everytime:
* Feel temporarily dazed and not knowing exactly what just happened.
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Yeah i feel the same when i have one of those dances. and then i just cannot stop smiling lol

Sobrero
 
africana said:
btw anyone else have insomnia issues after a really great night?? 5 years and I still have em, don't have a good solution to it besides sleeping in :)
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Yes I do! It happens after a good night of anything, unfortunately. Whether it's a great dance night, a good gig with my Irish band, a great skating session, or just some good work on my writing, I get it. I think some of that is activity before going to bed. I've read that sleep experts say you should not exercise after a certain hour of the night. I violate that all the time and don't sleep well. But I don't know any dance parties/activities that go from 4-6 p.m.

I started eating bananas and milk as soon as I got home from a "great night" and that helps a lot. If it's going to be real bad, I make sure I have turkey on hand as well. :-)
 
Actually, I think blurting out 'I Love You' can be fine, esp. if it's something like 'OMG, that was amazing, I Love You', and said in a slightly over the top enthusiastic manner.

Quite different to the 'OMG, I Love You, and want to have your babies, now, here's my hotel room key' variety.

Of course, mis-interepretation abound!! hehehe.
 
:( So far I haven't experienced such a great dance that would provoke me to say "I love you", or just sit down so I can enjoy the feeling a bit longer. I just grab another one of my favourite follows and keep on dancing. If the music is good that is. That really helps hold on to that wonderfull feeling....

When I get back from a long night of dancing I just brush my teeth and crash in bed. Sometimes I'm so tired that I don't brush my teeth and I'm fall asleep as soon as I get in bed.
 
ash88 said:
It's a rare dance where I get that level of euphoria, that's what makes it so special.

I've done the same thing everytime:

* Hug my partner and laugh.
* Feel temporarily dazed and not knowing exactly what just happened.
* Retreat to a corner of the room, sit down, relax, and smile.
* Eventually rejoin the dancers.
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That's sort of what I do, but only after I get to know the guys. The guys (mainly the instructors) and I almost always hug, but it's only meant to be friendly, so nothing more and nothing less. They are a great group of guys that love public displays of affection though lol. I've learned never to say I love you first, and to control my feelings. So no worries there for me anyways lol!;)
 
good topic... dancing certainly can take your mind, body and spirit to a whole other place and sometimes the experience is so strong you don't have to say a thing and you just look at each other like WHOA...

maybe, that's why we keep going back... we're secretly junkies trying to find that place again. Hehe
 
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