Question about tandas

[Lilly_of_the_valley]

How about this: when there are no cortinas, is it rude to automatically say thank you at the end of the third dance? I've done that and still had the guy ask if he can have a fourth, but then it occurs to me that other times it might have been rude....should I wait for the guy to decide he's done with me, or is it normal and expected to say thank you after three, but that doesn't mean I would say no to another if he wants it?

I do not go to milongas where there are no tandas and cortinas. In our neck of the wood it is a sure sign of congregation of bad dancers with appalling manners.

In a practica, when there are no tandas and cortinas, everybody takes it easy. If somebody wants to dance one song, it's OK with me.
If a partner wants more, I usually stay with him for 2-3-4 songs, and ask "one more?" before the song I want to be our last, so "thank you" in the end of the song does not come as a surprise.

 

[twnkltoz]

I do not go to milongas where there are no tandas and cortinas. In our neck of the wood it is a sure sign of congregation of bad dancers with appalling manners.

In a practica, when there are no tandas and cortinas, everybody takes it easy. If somebody wants to dance one song, it's OK with me.
If a partner wants more, I usually stay with him for 2-3-4 songs, and ask "one more?" before the song I want to be our last, so "thank you" in the end of the song does not come as a surprise.

I guess I'm referring only to practicas, since that's the only time they haven't had cortinas, IME. However, at all the practicas I've been to, they still have the expectation of dancing three (or more).

 

[Zoopsia59]

I guess I'm referring only to practicas, since that's the only time they haven't had cortinas, IME. However, at all the practicas I've been to, they still have the expectation of dancing three (or more).

Many practicas are more like "Practilongas" and are a hybrid of practica and milonga. True practicas are hard to find, IME.

 

[Lilly_of_the_valley]

I guess I'm referring only to practicas, since that's the only time they haven't had cortinas, IME. However, at all the practicas I've been to, they still have the expectation of dancing three (or more).

Yes, a lot of people treat a practica same way as a milonga, and vice versa. In my opinion, it should not be that way. Partially it happens because in some areas, there are not enough of practicas (or milongas). Sometimes it happens because people do not understand (or do not care about) the difference.

 

[Zoopsia59]

Not necessarily. The situation described in the posts is a leader being left alone on the dancefloor by his follower, without any explanation and without any mistakes by the leader. Yet it did happen. And not just once.

One new reason I can think is the "just because", semi-random decision. The lady looks at her watch and if the minute needle is between 39 and 31 then she leaves.

I'm pretty sure I've never left a leader in the middle of a tanda for any of the reasons you listed.

 

[Subliminal]

I've been to a practica where depending on the DJ, there are either cortinas or continuous music. I think there isn't really an etiquette for that situation; you just agree with your partner on how many you want to do.

 

[bastet]

Many practicas are more like "Practilongas" and are a hybrid of practica and milonga. True practicas are hard to find, IME.

That's been my experience also. Dancing with live music also seems to be this way.

I tend to do like dchester says when I'm somewhere that there aren't any cortinas. Always make sure my leader knows I am not dissing him when I want to stop dancing.

 

[Madahlia]

Many practicas are more like "Practilongas" and are a hybrid of practica and milonga. True practicas are hard to find, IME.

True, in my experience. I prefer "practicas" because I don't like the formality of milongas. However, the result is that, around here, we have "practilongas" - although I enjoy them, the real purpose of a practica is lost, to our detriment.