Question to pro-am dancers

[DancePoet]

This is an interesting perspective. When we started dancing at first, years ago, I was the one who knew nothing about and he has had group lessons on and off before we met, so he knew quite a few steps but little technique, everything that went wrong was my fault, and if I were not making stupid mistakes everything would be perfect, so he said. I tried to improve my dancing by taking extra lessons, or rather, by not cancelling them when he was travelling and just doing them alone. It turned out that even though it is extremely hard for me to find the beat in the music (which is something he can easily do), in all other aspects my body is better at learning how to move, so eventually we ended up where we are now.

Dance doesn't need to be about what is wrong, it could be about finding a workable connection. Approaching the issue from a positive standpoint feels so much better then blame and negativity. If one takes individual responsibility for a "mistake", and both people are doing this at the same time, it is amazing what can be achieved.

And eek ... the use of the word "perfect", bah!

Dance doesn't need to be perfect to enjoy.

(Hey DP, that last statement could be a good addition to your signature!)

Maybe.

 

[waltzgirl]

But to the extent that it is about dance, you probably could, if you wanted to, develop a style of dancing appropriate to dancing with your husband. I feel like, for every dance I do, I have two styles--comp and social. They're about as different from one another as smooth and standard or latin and rhythm are. My pro started me thinking that way. When I dance with him at a social, we dance social style--more relaxed frame (compared to extreme extension of the neck and head necessary for competing), no body contact, a somewhat different selection of steps, minimal arm styling (unless the floor is really empty), etc. And more playful and improvisatory--he loves to make up steps on the spot and see if I can follow them!

 

[DancePoet]

But to the extent that it is about dance, you probably could, if you wanted to, develop a style of dancing appropriate to dancing with your husband. I feel like, for every dance I do, I have two styles--comp and social. They're about as different from one another as smooth and standard or latin and rhythm are. My pro started me thinking that way. When I dance with him at a social, we dance social style--more relaxed frame (compared to extreme extension of the neck and head necessary for competing), no body contact, a somewhat different selection of steps, minimal arm styling (unless the floor is really empty), etc. And more playful and improvisatory--he loves to make up steps on the spot and see if I can follow them!

Oooh! This idea seems wise and fun!

 

[musicchica86]

And more playful and improvisatory--he loves to make up steps on the spot and see if I can follow them!

Glad to know my pro's not the only one that does that... Half the time I have absolutely no idea what he's doing! LOL