bastet
Active Member
Peaches and Zoopsia- It's not just you. I get this on occasion with leaders who don't know where their weight is....or who don't understand how holding it in a different place affects their followers.
So this:
"Yeah, this is what I end up doing. And it sucks. I appreciate that there are all kinds of ways that the leaders have to accomodate the followers, but this is surely a two-way street. The only thing I've found that works with these leaders (short of losing my balance, leaning overly much on them, etc.) is to take shorter steps and, if not break the connection by dancing open, then weaken it to the point where close embrace is just pointless.
What seems to happen with some leaders is that they don't seem very in control of where their own weight is. They may start out with their weight forward over the ball of the foot/instep...but it's like when they start walking their weight shifts back to over their heels. And, yes, just that small shift can make a difference...particularly if you're dancing with a lot of forward intention/shared weight. Then they arrive at their next step, but the follower is left in an extremely awkward in-between place. That's my theory based on what I've felt anyway."
One of my instructors (who trained with Gavito so does lots of apilado) always points out to the leaders that they have not completed a step until they have made sure that they lady is where she needs to be weight wise (so back over the balls of their feet).
Still, just to know this doesn't help me much in real life and I just end up doing as you do with these leads and dance in open. Close embrace, much less apilado is pretty pointless.
So this:
"Yeah, this is what I end up doing. And it sucks. I appreciate that there are all kinds of ways that the leaders have to accomodate the followers, but this is surely a two-way street. The only thing I've found that works with these leaders (short of losing my balance, leaning overly much on them, etc.) is to take shorter steps and, if not break the connection by dancing open, then weaken it to the point where close embrace is just pointless.
What seems to happen with some leaders is that they don't seem very in control of where their own weight is. They may start out with their weight forward over the ball of the foot/instep...but it's like when they start walking their weight shifts back to over their heels. And, yes, just that small shift can make a difference...particularly if you're dancing with a lot of forward intention/shared weight. Then they arrive at their next step, but the follower is left in an extremely awkward in-between place. That's my theory based on what I've felt anyway."
One of my instructors (who trained with Gavito so does lots of apilado) always points out to the leaders that they have not completed a step until they have made sure that they lady is where she needs to be weight wise (so back over the balls of their feet).
Still, just to know this doesn't help me much in real life and I just end up doing as you do with these leads and dance in open. Close embrace, much less apilado is pretty pointless.