Speeddating

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Lockstep

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Hey all,

just got this flyer in my mailbox, advertising for a salsa+speeddating party...anyone ever done this speeddating business? is it remotely sensible? cant imagine that those type of conversations are likely to spark a relationship, but i may be wrong...

also kinda affraid that the salsa+speeddating combination will make the assumption 'were just dancing, nothing more', harder to sustain, right?

Doesn't hurt to try it out though i suppose...but lemme know what u think anyways
 
Dear lockstep:

I used to be registered on match.com, and they used to have "speeddating" events 2-3 times a month here in LA, but they always conflicted with my tango activities, so I never went. I'm a little mystified by the concept myself. I'd be curious to find out. If it isn't too expensive, or inconvenient, why don't you go to that event as our DF "fifth columnist" and give us a full report of what "speeddating" is all about? If nothing else, it'll be an interesting adventure.

Renee
 
Sorry, "fifth columnist" is a military term, not a journalistic one, and basically means a spy. And as our DF spy, we'd really rather you NOT advertise your allegiance.

:)

Renee
 
I have gone to a speeddating event - over drinks though no dancing - and although fun i won't do it again. What could help you is to think of 2-3 questions you want to ask a potential date and have them ready. The conclusion to our event was that you received via e-mail a list of names and e-mail addresses where both parties were interested in one another. Of course you indicated your potential interest on a little card at the party and then given it to the hostess of the event.

Good luck to you
 
ReneeJoan said:
Sorry, "fifth columnist" is a military term, not a journalistic one, and basically means a spy. And as our DF spy, we'd really rather you NOT advertise your allegiance.

:)

Renee
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one learns something new every day...
 
I met my girlfriend 3 years ago in a speed date. I can't imagine spending a day without her now.

You can't tell if you will love someone in 8 minutes. But you can tell if you won't.

With several people, it was impossible to keep the conversation going for the entire 8 minutes. That is a HUGE negative.

With my (current) girlfriend, we continued talking after the deal was done. By the end of the night, I knew she was (is) incredible, and I never bothered calling the other girls.

In retrospect, I should have called the other girls to say that I wasn't going to call, but by that point I had completely forgotten about anyone them, and was focused on my (current) girlfriend.
 
I've always been wary of 'singles' events... like you though, the idea of speed dating intriques me.... I tend to be a social voyer, so I want to know what it's about.... a salsa event might peak my curiosity just enough
 
So, what--they get together a bunch of single salsa dancers and make them dance once or twice with each other, then switch?
 
Joe said:
So, what--they get together a bunch of single salsa dancers and make them dance once or twice with each other, then switch?
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Isn't this what happens at a club where they play Salsa music?
 
DancePoet said:
Joe said:
So, what--they get together a bunch of single salsa dancers and make them dance once or twice with each other, then switch?
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Isn't this what happens at a club where they play Salsa music?
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Yes very much so, except that we usually don't bother asking what their name is, what they do for living, what they like (except "on1 or on2?" :twisted: :lol:) or any other useful question to find out if you want to date them or not. :?
 
MacMoto said:
DancePoet said:
Joe said:
So, what--they get together a bunch of single salsa dancers and make them dance once or twice with each other, then switch?
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Isn't this what happens at a club where they play Salsa music?
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Yes very much so, except that we usually don't bother asking what their name is, what they do for living, what they like (except "on1 or on2?" :twisted: :lol:) or any other useful question to find out if you want to date them or not. :?
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Exactly.
 
Yeah, the salsa connection with speed-dating had me wondering too.

My take on what it could be about:

With some dance partners we get great connection while with others (such as me with my x2b) it can be a constant struggle, little more than a wrestling match. While it's understandable with my x2b, there are other women with whom I'm friends but we cannot connect properly when dancing while we both do fine with other partners.

Well, let's face it, if we are looking for a romantic partner, wouldn't we want one with whom we can connect while dancing? I know that I would love to experience the kinds of special dances that that combination would make possible.

So in this salsa speed-dating event, is it their idea for you to also dance a number with the person so that you can also factor in the connection?


Another thought:
Maybe it's just a speed-dating event for which everybody has been pre-screened for having one common interest: salsa.
 
Interesting concept. Hmm. So what do you do if the speed date goes well? Throw off the "rotation" byt not switching partners? :?

No idea how it works. My idea of a speed date is going out for drinks, rather than lunch or dinner. If it doesn't work out, lose him after one drink.

So how does it work?

And, btw, cool story, Bob. 8)
 
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