“Oh she’s not good enough a dancer to get dances on her own so she has to pay to get dances”.
I've often heard that description applied to those who pay taxis. It rubs me the wrong way because there are plenty of other explanations that are as good and probably more common. In rough order by what I've heard or seen personally:
“She knows nothing about the language and culture where the event is, and lacks the time and inclination to learn or muddle through, so she pays to ensure that she can dance with people who are used to tourists and who speak her language.”
“She knows the event is famous as one where only the young or pretty dance, so she pays not to have to deal with that b******t.”
“She has an image of being an excellent dancer that is very important to her, and has no desire to dance with anybody who would make her look bad, so she pays what amount to professional dancers to dance at her level."
“She is rich, so she pays to circumvent all questions of dancing or not dancing. You would, too, if you had the money.”
“She is neurodivergent and uncomfortable with gazes and strangers, but not at all with practical contracts and purchases, so she prefers paying for a well-understood service negotiated in advance to having a recreational event become an anxiety trigger.”
None of those are made up . . . they are real examples.
Other real examples: I personally know a charming, wealthy guy who's a terrible dancer and who dances with all the visiting "tango royalty" because of his connections and reputation. I know several young, pretty, terrible followers who dance with all the visiting "tango royalty" because they are attractive. And I know plenty of excellent dancers who get passed over due to being faces in the crowd.
The myth: Tango is equal-opportunity regardless of connections, culture, language, looks, money, neurotype, reputation, youth, etc. as long as you dance well.
The reality: Just about all of that other stuff matters more than how well you dance, which is as often or not just a tiebreaker.