The long-term solution is dual-role dancing?

they're still going to be faced with tango's steep learning curve, a dearth of partners
Potential Solutions:
  1. Get your own partner beforehand
  2. Be sociable
Of course, being friendly and sociable do seem to be a serious problem with some groups, and for some people, but not with others - at least until they go to some milonga - possibly too early, or without being warned, or chaperoned. The usual problem is putting too much emphasis on vocabulary compared with what suffices for a tanda - and knowing that's just enough.

However in the group where we started there were adequate partners of both sexes, although possibly not now.

As has been said many times: it's about being 'acquainted' with people - which fixes all manner of issues.
 
they're still going to be faced with tango's steep learning curve, a dearth of partners...
and dual role actually makes the learning curve worse. Normally some of the more advanced follows show up to help the beginner classes and some leaders get to lead someone who knows what they are doing. Now, these follows are just in the same class as leads, so the beginner classes are not only lead heavy, but the potential to later ask a more advanced follow to dance at a practica is not there since there is no interaction with her at rotations.
 
Indeed.

Even if we somehow come up with a solution that encourages a significant number of males to participate in social dance, they're still going to be faced with tango's steep learning curve, a dearth of partners... and it certainly doesn't help when they realise so many followers only want to dance with a smaller subset of leaders!

Really, it makes me chuckle when I realised that all those followers with double standards, who complain about not getting enough dances, are just making the situation worse (or at least maintaining its current relative untenability).

It's not fun for a leader to hear that they're not getting enough dances when he's being ignored by the same followers.
It’s honestly a good microcosm of the state of online dating these days.
The top 10-20% of men have an abundance of women, and thus don’t need to commit to any one. The majority of women complain about no good men committing to them (since they only consider those top 10-20% to be “good”, and are ignoring the rest).
 
One approach I saw recently was couples only classes. Basically you had to have a partner to join the class with no rotations. It made it easier for the men who normally would not dance but did it for the wives. There were also people that would normally not partake in rotation based classes because of religion. It means more people attending milongas even if they didn’t dance with everyone but they were there to socialize and what not. It’s pretty amazing how many men you meet at milongas that picked it up due to a significant other.
 
The top 10-20% of men have an abundance of women, and thus don’t need to commit to any one.
No need - or no desire?

OK, I come from a pre-internet era when 'dating agency' meant snail mail to some dubious matchmaking organisation.

IRL was better. And one woman was infinitely better than nothing.
The majority of women complain about no good men committing to them
Yeah, the complaint was always about having to kiss a lot of toads before you met your handsome prince - but sometimes the pairings were astonishing. In those days there were also some women who took finding a partner as a serious task. Requirements for a partner have, reportedly, changed.

I suppose the key point was that you had to put yourself on the social 'market' - and 'dance' was one option amongst many.

One approach I saw recently was couples only classes.
Probably depends on their age. I could imagine that working for a time in a university environment, or with the older demographic. I've known a few couples who've been in classes. Even if inseparable initially (the only person to suffer is the one you know!), they eventually rotate if everyone else does.

But, for some groups in some settings, 'couples only' (or balance) makes sense. At least the teachers don't have to pair people up or run some 'bus stop' system with a long queue.
 
Basically you had to have a partner to join the class with no rotations
I honestly can't see any value in that. It's not bringing in anyone who will dance with other people, and indeed they very likely would be unable to do so. I know of one couple like that who only danced with each other for two years, after which they finally decided they were happy to dance with other people – but neither of them could do so because they were just so used to each other's poor signals and bad habits that they actually had no idea how to either lead or follow.
 
I honestly can't see any value in that.
Maybe not for you if you're in solo world - but it gets some through the door into another world.

In my experience (but perhaps not true BR!) it worked to the limit you said for BR. It depends how it's taught and progresses (e.g. start as fixed couples, but there's an expectation to change partners), but it could attract a certain group who are uncertain. As a 'partner' dance, you need a partner - hence those early single-sex prácticas with male followers.

Also works well in workshops. Start with your partner and you can complain and criticise each other for everything you each do incorrectly, then you move on.
 
..As a 'partner' dance, you need a partner..
The unique selling point of tango is that you desperately need a dance partner for the single purpose of getting rid of him/her as soon as possible.

And so it's a great blessing that there are so many different tango formats and types: those for life partners, those for dedicated dance partners, for random dance partners, affairs, and all their transitional forms.

The biggest advantage of tango is that the sexual aspects are handled discreetly and subtly. This is a major plus compared to the BR-world; nowhere else I've experienced such aggressive flirting and mutual elopement as in the Standard community.

In tango, the rather relational disturbed people meet, which fosters non-binding affairs. In BR (sorry, this is based on my experience in competitive dance sport in the 70s to early 80s, YMMD), more narcissistic and histrionic personalities concentrate. Hence the higher rate of abuse.
 
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I honestly can't see any value in that. It's not bringing in anyone who will dance with other people, and indeed they very likely would be unable to do so.
Tango is super scary for some people. One of my friends is taking a friend she knows from the contact dance and fusion communities to this couples only dance class. They are both women. To her it is an easier way to introduce tango without having to deal with her friend having to navigate inexperienced leads or sit for long periods of time waiting to dance in a rotation. So even if the teacher built it really to accommodate folks from her church that wouldn’t go out otherwise, it also works as a more balanced class where people get to advance faster.

We have a couple that still hasn’t rotated with others in three years because the wife just doesn’t like the idea of dancing with others. But they show up enthusiastically to the classes and support the milongas. Surprisingly they are also one of the few people that have stuck with tango when nine out of ten other beginners have dropped out over the years.
 
The biggest advantage of tango is that the sexual aspects are handled discreetly and subtly. This is a major plus compared to the BR-world; nowhere else I've experienced such aggressive flirting and mutual elopement as in the Standard community.
Oh, there are!
 
Tango is super scary for some people.
Dance can be super scary! And partner dance without some chosen partner even more so.

Early waltz was frowned upon because of the hold and movement. AT was 'tamed' for ballroom when it came to Europe. Where else does an anglophone get to hold multiple unknown women in a close embrace?

Some are wary of close hold, whatever their reasons, so a trusted partner is, for some, preferable - at least initially. I'd agree to some extent with @TTanguero that, longterm, it doesn't work well for dance development - except if performance is your destination.

But, if there's a market, why not have 'couples' classes?
 
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Dance can be super scary!
Who are you speaking for here?
Early waltz was frowned upon because of the hold and movement.
Conversely, everyone found it normal. The early waltz (ländler) was a traditional folk dance. And even the aristocracy exploded in a waltz-craze, because 200 years ago Romanticism actually ordered sensual connection. (pre-Georgian-III era)
AT was 'tamed' for ballroom when it came to Europe...
It was about copyright. Besides the English waltz, there was the French waltz, which always remained compatible with the Argentine vals.

 
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Who are you speaking for here?
The context was 'newbies', so 'newbies' - before they start.
Conversely, everyone found it normal. The early waltz (ländler) was a traditional folk dance. And even the aristocracy exploded in a waltz-craze, because 200 years ago Romanticism actually ordered sensual connection. (pre-Georgian-III era)
Irrelevant. It was regarded as 'unseemly' by some, and that persisted for a short time. Of course people enjoyed it! That's why its legacy forms are still around.
It was about copyright. Besides the English waltz, there was the French waltz, which always remained compatible with the Argentine vals.
The English sanitised it and codified the dance steps. It's still regarded as somewhat risqué (possibly by any pearl-clutchers watching Strictly/DWTS). That persists as a stereotype (like the rose) in folk-memory. 'Copyright' is irrelevant to that.

The point is that stereotypes in folk-memory make it appear risqué to some. That may be an attraction or a fear. Add in to that some fear of a new environment and people. Some might want to take a friend.

Would two male friends enroll at a dance class? Maybe as a foursome or with a female friend (yes, they do exist!).
 
The context was 'newbies'..
You present the developments of the last 10 years as the norm. In doing so, you legitimize these developments. I consider the norm to be how things were 200 years ago.
Would two male friends enroll at a dance class?
In my city, the queer tango scene emerged at the same time as the heteronormative one in the 80s. They have now (almost) merged. In the lindy hop scene, it's also common for two males or two females to enroll in classes.
Dance can be super scary...
Why do you defend people who are too weak to break free from their culture, their religion, their parents, their traditions? Tango was and is primarily a dance of people who have left their ties behind. Hamburg, my hometown, was a place of emigrants. You can read the endless lists of the homeless people who boarded the emigrant ships. They were the very essence of tango.
 
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I honestly can't see any value in that. It's not bringing in anyone who will dance with other people, and indeed they very likely would be unable to do so. I know of one couple like that who only danced with each other for two years, after which they finally decided they were happy to dance with other people – but neither of them could do so because they were just so used to each other's poor signals and bad habits that they actually had no idea how to either lead or follow.
These exist in nyc and are more private-ish. They’re pretty great since the teachers can actually teach the material they want since they know everyone in the class is at a minimum level of dance and don’t have to wildly adjust.
In class you mainly work with the partner you’ve brought like 80-90% of the time but there are exercises where you swap partners.
 

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