The Whining thread

[SPratt74]

I've been there - at least once, I decided that not knowing and potentially risking death from an unknown illness was better than spending $600 on an MRI.

But that doesn't mean that I wasn't being a moronic idiot.

The tests that come out with no results are very useful - they tell that you aren't going to die of an illness that matches your symptoms and that's one less thing to worry about, one more thing to check off that list and one more step towards good health and peace.

On another occasion (when I had insurance that covered everything ), I had to get tests (in ER and outside ) that cost $20k+, and gave me no conclusive diagnosis. But what it did tell my doctors was that I had no illness known to man - which put my odds of surviving and recovering completely very high. And I survived, and I recovered. It does nothing to bring the patient immediate peace or consolation, but it does everything to bring the doctors a sigh of relief for that patient - and at the end of the day, that's the only thing that matters. Please go to ER.

I know that some of you don't know my situation, but a Specialist is the only person that will look into my situation. A regular doctor will not do so. In fact, one year I had problems with my situation (which I should say is a woman's issue, which is why I won't put it down here lol), and my normal doctor would not even look at me. I had to go to a walk in clinic, which cost more than what my normal doctor would have cost me (insurance reasons).

The same thing happened here. I was very furious. I was like I could be dying and you will not look at me? That's why the point of the E.R. is hopeless. And when I mentioned my problem, they didn't even look into it. In fact they were accusing me of other things, and the results proved the other things were not even a possibility. I was like what good is that lab when they won't even look into the possibilities that I have put down on paper that I was actually diagnosed with?

And what good is the E.R. when they don't even do their job to begin with? I told them what I had, and they looked into other things. I was like what? That's why the Specialist is the only person that will take care of this problem. I'm not stopping my life just because of a little pain and possible surgery. I'm like do the research online people (not you guys I mean lol I so wanted to say that to the doctors in the E.R.). They will say the same stuff I am saying here. I'm not spending any more money on a hospital that accused me of doing things when I told them exactly what to look into and didn't.

But I've had my problems with doctors over the years. The best ones seem to be the Specialists. General doctors are good, but not if you have a serious condition. And I like my general doctor, but she can't help me with this problem. The E.R. doctors are the same. And don't even get me started with the male doctors. Although, I had one great male doctor when I first moved down here. He gave me his pager number and things and told me that I can call him anytime that I needed to. And it didn't hurt that he was a hottie lol. But he paid attention to me though. He listened to what I had to say and that meant a lot to me.

 

[SPratt74]

There is a term for this 'the worried well' ie it is better to be slightly hypochondriac and get checked out than letting an undiagnosed condition go unnoticed or untreated.

Well, I know what the condition is. That is not the problem. It's that a general doctor will not look at you. I've tried many times, and they will not do so. ;(

 

[Peaches]

I can't decide if I want to go dancing tonight.

On one hand, it's dancing, it's AT dancing, it's a new (to me) venue which is supposed to be one of the AT hot spots, I don't have to go to work tomorrow so why the heck shouldn't I.

OTOH, today is a Beaten With a Stick day, I have a headache that won't go away, I'm tired, I've never been to this venue so I don't know if it's worth an hour's drive to sit for an hour and be bored, since it's one of the hot spots there's a better-than-average chance it will be populated by a group of AT dancers I don't particularly care for.

DH is out this evening, so it's not like I'll miss visiting time with him...but it also means I'll probably be bored and kinda lonely at home.

I'm not in the best of moods. There's a better-than-average chance that the dancing will work its usual magic and make me all happy. But, there's a chance that my mood will make my dancing suck, which will make me even less happy than I am currently.

Decisions, decisions.

 

[samina]

peach, since there's not much to lose, why not pop an advil & go the adventurous route?



life is short. could end up being a great time. and if it's not... who cares? at least you risked doing something new & out-of-your-norm.

 

[SPratt74]

I can't decide if I want to go dancing tonight.

On one hand, it's dancing, it's AT dancing, it's a new (to me) venue which is supposed to be one of the AT hot spots, I don't have to go to work tomorrow so why the heck shouldn't I.

OTOH, today is a Beaten With a Stick day, I have a headache that won't go away, I'm tired, I've never been to this venue so I don't know if it's worth an hour's drive to sit for an hour and be bored, since it's one of the hot spots there's a better-than-average chance it will be populated by a group of AT dancers I don't particularly care for.

DH is out this evening, so it's not like I'll miss visiting time with him...but it also means I'll probably be bored and kinda lonely at home.

I'm not in the best of moods. There's a better-than-average chance that the dancing will work its usual magic and make me all happy. But, there's a chance that my mood will make my dancing suck, which will make me even less happy than I am currently.

Decisions, decisions.

I'd say go for it. Dancing usually does spruce up our happiness level, so don't worry about not being in the best of moods. I've gone dancing when I've been like that and sure enough someone will have me in laughter the whole night. Go have fun! Enjoy!

 

[Peaches]

Not going dancing.

Decided it wasn't a good idea when I realized I was too tired to drive safely for the 10 miles between the train station and home. Driving 55 miles to the milonga, which doesn't start until 10, and then driving home would just be stupid.

 

[SPratt74]

Not going dancing.

Decided it wasn't a good idea when I realized I was too tired to drive safely for the 10 miles between the train station and home. Driving 55 miles to the milonga, which doesn't start until 10, and then driving home would just be stupid.

Oh. I understand. I'll give you that one lol!

 

[chandra]

I havent really been feeling up to dancing recently either! Im going to will myself to go right now, and Im super excited about going to san diego next week to dance, but... Im not feeling it right now *Shrug*

 

[SPratt74]

I havent really been feeling up to dancing recently either! Im going to will myself to go right now, and Im super excited about going to san diego next week to dance, but... Im not feeling it right now *Shrug*

I completely understand that too! I feel for you. I hope that things get better!

 

[chandra]

I completely understand that too! I feel for you. I hope that things get better!

Im doing pretty well actually, I am consoling myself by booking myself dance-event solid in march, Im so excited, its like 7 event weekends in a row

 

[SPratt74]

Im doing pretty well actually, I am consoling myself by booking myself dance-event solid in march, Im so excited, its like 7 event weekends in a row

Lol! Good. It's nice to be kept busy so you don't have to think of such things lol. That's what I tend to do. But I've signed up with like volunteering and things like since I can't afford anything right now that which makes it all worth while anyways! Good for you!

 

[samina]

getting late start this morning... had a little medical emergency w/ my oldest. back now from dr, but still need to make pharmacy run... and have to sort out insurance issue.

very whine-worthy: got to the pediatrician and was informed that my son's insurance is coming up *inactive*. <breathe...>

raises a lot of questions that i'm hoping get resolved when i finally reach the father for an explanation... but so far he's incommunicado.

going on 10:30, haven't had my coffee, still have a pharmacy run to make, haven't left for work... yep, some very good whines indeed...

hopefully, in the blink of an eye, this will all disappear into whence it came...

 

[DWise1]

The same thing happened to my, Samina. My ex had always carried the family on her insurance, so during the separation she had to continue to carry me. Then one day I went in for an appointment and was informed that my insurance had been terminated. I immediately called my lawyer and it took him three days to get back to me. The insurance was terminated because the divorce had been finalized. Six weeks prior! And nobody ever thought to inform me. If I hadn't gone in to the doctor's office, I would never have found out. Walking around with no coverage and with her still as the beneficiary on my life insurance. Wonderless!

I realize that the cause of your situation is undoubtedly different, since it must involve child support. And I don't know if your ex being incommunicado is normal for him -- it would be for me ex, who would go out of her way to make a point of snubbing me, just to demonstrate her hatred of me.

 

[samina]

sorry to hear that, DW... that stinks. and oh... i could tell you stories that would make your hair curl. <g>

but just got word... the insurance changed, no gap in coverage. documents shall be faxed, charges covered... <whew>

so happeeeeee....

 

[SPratt74]

getting late start this morning... had a little medical emergency w/ my oldest. back now from dr, but still need to make pharmacy run... and have to sort out insurance issue.

very whine-worthy: got to the pediatrician and was informed that my son's insurance is coming up *inactive*. <breathe...>

raises a lot of questions that i'm hoping get resolved when i finally reach the father for an explanation... but so far he's incommunicado.

going on 10:30, haven't had my coffee, still have a pharmacy run to make, haven't left for work... yep, some very good whines indeed...

hopefully, in the blink of an eye, this will all disappear into whence it came...

I'm sorry to hear that. Health is very important. I'm glad to hear that your son is out of the doctor's office though.