I guess this is, primarily, a question directed towards Angel. Although if anyone else has ideas, please feel free to chime in!
Angel, you've mentioned many times that there are three rhythms that can be danced to in any song. Can you explain what three things you're talking about?
In terms of AT (and I don't know if you mean that purely in reference to AT, or if it applies to ballroom and other genres, as well), I could see that being the primary beats, the secondary beats, and the "& counts." Or if you take it out of the realm of pure rhythm, I could see it as beats, syncopated counts ("& counts" or the "ah"--as in one ee and ah two-- count), and the melody. Or...???
Could you elaborate? Or if anyone else knows, could you please enlighten me?
As an aside, I find it interesting that I never "hear" the beats when I dance AT. Oh, sure, if I make the effort to listen I can find them without a problem. (My mom had grand hopes of me being a conductor, or at least playing some instrument, so counting the music is of absolutely no problem to me.) Of if I'm dancing with a leader who only ever steps on the beat I can't escape it. But if I'm just listening and feeling AT music, I tend to hear everything but the beat--the accents, various voices (not the singers) and instruments, the melody, if things are legato versus staccato, the building and releasing of energy/tension, any sort of swing in the music...just not the beat. I kind of like my way of listening to it...