To date or not to date

Brummbaer said:
Exactly! But then there appear to be variants of 'traditional' dating with an anticipated end, so it depends what's implied in the OP's present culture. Extreme caution and some reasoning will be required, but when the hormones kick in...
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OP is not at all clear by what his/her expectations are, what are prevailing norms in his/her region, what he/she means by dating. Rest of us are only speculating :D
 
Bailango said:
..what are prevailing norms in his/her region..
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That is, of course, a very important point, Bailango. Does the tango scene in question meet behind a high barbed-wire fence of a holiday resort in Alexandria, or is the scene publicly visible, and is the flirting behavior of tango dancers and non-dancers essentially the same like in Rome?

However, I perceived Pharaoh's post as more of a question about internal group dynamics. And that's what my answers referred to.
 
Miradamiranda said:
One thing I CAN speak about from personal experience is, that when that delicious chemistry is found on the dance floor, and if it’s NOT acted upon, it can turn into the gift that keeps on giving (for years and years) without the complications attached.
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I can relate. My GF is also my dance partner and we make a great couple on and off the dance floor. But If I was single there are a few very attractive and talented followers who'd want a relationship with me. A couple of them have said things like; "where can I find a guy like you...?" (or dropped hints along those lines).

Nonetheless, I get to enjoy that "delicious chemistry" you speak about, so they're the "gifts that keep on giving" without complications. That said, my honor, dignity, and faithfulness are important to me, so there's no shortage of followers with the delicious chemistry we share during the course of a tanda (or two).
 
opendoor said:
I think Miradamiranda meant it the other way around: instead of acting out, confining oneself just to suffering in silence.
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That's how I interpreted it too. I wouldn't be the person to "act out" (pursue another partner romantically), just enjoy the "delicious chemistry" of only dancing with them.
My SO put it succinctly; prior to me, she never had a relationship with another dancer, only enjoyed the chemistry on the dance floor. If things don't work out, it complicates things.
 
Tango Newbie said:
..If things don't work out, it complicates things.
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I cannot confirm that. I met everyone I’ve been involved with—both affairs and longer-term relationships—within my tango scene. I have met so wonderful people. Somehow, we all remained friends; we treat one another with consideration and meet up regularly. If you are honest and sincere with the people around you, that is exactly what you get back in return.
 
Of course, I was oblivious. I had no insight into human nature; I had just tumbled out of a marriage. I had left everything terrible behind me. Things could only get better. Perhaps it is an advantage to be naive, TT ?
 
Partner dancing is the only leisure activity (I know of?) that is preferably done in physical contact with the opposite sex - aside from ... . Is one perhaps the preparation or the substitute for the other? And a different perspective follows from this?
 
itwillhappen said:
Partner dancing is the only leisure activity (I know of?) that is preferably done in physical contact with the opposite sex - aside from ... . Is one perhaps the preparation or the substitute for the other? And a different perspective follows from this?
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Brazilian Jujitsu ( now that more women are getting into it ), contact acrobatics, assisted/partner yoga, tandem skydiving.
 
Well, those are contact sports. However, the idea that martial arts are inherently heteronormative is news to me. As for the others, I have no experience.
 
brujo said:
Brazilian Jujitsu ( now that more women are getting into it ), contact acrobatics, assisted/partner yoga, tandem skydiving.
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Ice dance and pairs disciplines in figure skating and their counterparts in artistic roller skating. Although the rules have now changed to allow same gender couples in competition because there are far more female figure skaters than males which makes a dearth of male partners. I know of a few female couples competing in ice dance, but so far no pairs because of the need for the lifting/throwing partner to be a fair bit larger and considerably stronger than the one who gets tossed around (which would be me, pairs having been my discipline when I was in competition).

[Not sure I attached this example to the correct post, but it's an example of traditionally mixed pairs in sports. And then there are mixed doubles in tennis, and in curling in the last few Olympics.]
 
MaggiWrites said:
Ice dance and pairs disciplines in figure skating and their counterparts in artistic roller skating.
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I think you have to differentiate between teams (e.g. curling) or co-operation against some opposition (mixed doubles), and partnerships together involving physical contact. Ice/roller dances and partner dances, derived from partner dances off-ice, seem to me to be the qualifiers. 'Pairs' is more mixed with synchronised moves or thrown jumps - but involves that element of trust along with physical contact.

The problems come separating a role from reality.
 
Bailango said:
replace running with tango..
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I do not agree with this, for the very heart of running clubs is not the athletic activity itself, Bailango, but rather the club app. It is the app that orchestrates self-optimization, body shaping, scoring, and dating.
In the world of tango, apps do not hold a comparable significance.
 
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