Wedding Songs?

[Subliminal]

that's lovely, I agree.

I think its a really personal thing, and both in the couple have to like the piece of music. Somebody I knew (non-AT dancers) were going to tango to Por Un Cabeza..i rolled my eyes...

if the lyrics are ignored;

Tú…el cielo y tú (1944)

I like that song. I'll run it by her. We aren't too concerned with lyrics. There might be a few spanish speakers in the crowd, but whatever. I would have trouble doing Por Un Cabeza. It's so overdone. And knowing the lyrics myself, I don't think I could bring myself to do it.

 

[Subliminal]

Yikes.

Of course, the guests at the wedding probably won't know the translation. But still.

I guess my question is whether AT is a good wedding dance at all. Don't shoot me, folks. Don't shoot me.

Thhhpt!

I'm a minister's daughter and have been to more weddings than I can count. Seriously. From what I've seen, the couple's first wedding dance is more for show and for audience enjoyment than anything. AT doesn't, by my narrow way of looking at it, easily lend itself to that kind of show, for non-AT spectators. (Unless you're going to do a lot of the fancy stuff that people in this forum like to argue about *cough cough* discuss.)

ATers in the audience could be oohing and aahing. Non-dancers could easily be thinking, "When the heck are they going to start dancing?"

I think we have a different philosophy. Neither of us wants to do a big showy piece, not to mention stress over learning choreography among all the many other wedding stressors. She dances, but doesn't have the motivation to learn advanced showy stuff. I am thinking at this point I will come up with an idea of what I want to do to the music we dance, but not tell her so it is pure lead-follow. With maybe a choreographed gancho or boleo at a specific point. If it seems appropriate.

My parents and friends haven't really seen us dance, they will probably will be shocked even if we did a continuous 8CB. heh.

 

[Peaches]

Eh. I'll put in a counter-argument to Pyg. (This is the AT forum after all. Got to argue about something. )

DH and I didn't do a first dance (or any dance, for that matter), for a lot of reasons. They were good reasons at the time. But...I will never have that with him. Ever. And it makes me very sad to think that. I never had a father-daughter dance with my dad at my wedding...and never will...ever. It makes me very sad. Yes, a lot of it is for show. But I also would have liked (looking back on things), those few moments just to ourselves. Because, really, even though everyone is watching...you're still apart and to yourselves out there.

I got to have something like the father-daughter dance I never had...but at my brother's wedding. I almost lost it and broke down crying. I hadn't realize just how incredibly special it would be. Ditto when I dance with DH now at weddings...I didn't realize then what I was giving up.

Yes, a lot of it is for show, and for typical, outdated, b.s. tradition reasons...but it is special. Or can be.

Just my $0.02. Shrug.

 

[Subliminal]

Yes a vals would be fine. Sonar y nada mas, lo que vieron tus ojos...
For an audience who is not into tango, and who is expecting the usual ballroom waltz, if you want to use a tango instead then it has to be a song that everybody will identify as a tango. And if you as the dancers prefer not-too-old music, then maybe some remastered-electronified Cumparsita.

lo que vieron tus ojos is cute! I can't believe I haven't heard this one. Or maybe I have, or it wasn't playing when I was dancing. Any modern covers?

I'm not really sure that we care if anyone knows what style we are dancing. The non-dancers would probably only figure it out if we did some atrocious DWtS routine to La Cumparsita. There probably will be a few ballroom dancers in the crowd, and hopefully at least one AT dancer. But they'll figure it out on their own.

 

[Subliminal]

My husband and I did a lead-follow AT to Desde el Alma. There were no big tricks, no dips, only one boleo. Our mostly non-dancing friends and family still loved it.

That's what I'm thinking of. The song.. maybe! Will have to sell it to her. But the idea of doing lead-follow with a few tricks is good. No stress for her.

 

[Subliminal]

On of my favorite modern waltzes, especially for AT, is Fallin' by Alicia Keys. OK, so the lyrics aren't pure lovey-dovey, but on a certain level they're real when it comes to long-term relationships. You fall in and out of love, you get hurt, but it's still good.

gf likes this song! Putting it down as a possibility.

 

[Subliminal]

A couple questions:
Are the lyrics important, or just the music?
Are you planning to do (dance) more flashy moves (nuevo / stage), or more of a traditional tango?

A couple thoughts:
A sad song (music, not lyrics) to one person, could be deemed romantic to someone else.
There are many vals that would be fine (as already has been mentioned).
If the lyrics are not important, Por Una Cabezo seems to be very popular (plus many arrangements don't have the vocals, anyways).

To be honest though, if it's your wedding, then I'd just go with whatever you two like, and not worry about what anyone else thinks. After all, it's your day.


BTW, Congrats
:cheers:

Lyrics don't matter. Instrumental is fine. Blatantly inappropriate lyrics are probably a bad idea. Though PG-13 might be good for a laugh. (There will be kids there.)

We will probably be keeping it simple, for her. Close embrace, walks, turns, ochos, etc. Maybe a few tricks for show. That's it.

And thanks!!

 

[Subliminal]

You can't beat Desde el Alma but the tempo might be a little fast for the couple or occasion. A beautiful tango is La Melodia del Corazon, recorded by Edgardo Donato and probably others. The melody, or part of it, is based on a Chopin etude that has also been used in a popular song called No Other Love.

Ah, yes, had to listen to it but I remember La Melodia del Corazon now. It is played quite a bit in milongas I think. Will add it to consideration. Not sure about the singer though. I am used to the old tango singer style by now. I don't know if anyone else will get it though.

 

[Subliminal]

no ideas but - CONGRATULATIONS

p.s. my daughter chose a song that I would start by dancing with her - then came the groom.

THANKS!

I think that's sweet. But fiancee says to that idea: "My therapist has already graduated me. I have no interest in going there."

 

[pygmalion]

Thhhpt!



I think we have a different philosophy. Neither of us wants to do a big showy piece, not to mention stress over learning choreography among all the many other wedding stressors. She dances, but doesn't have the motivation to learn advanced showy stuff. I am thinking at this point I will come up with an idea of what I want to do to the music we dance, but not tell her so it is pure lead-follow. With maybe a choreographed gancho or boleo at a specific point. If it seems appropriate.

My parents and friends haven't really seen us dance, they will probably will be shocked even if we did a continuous 8CB. heh.

I didn't mean to suggest that wedding dances are always big and showy. They are, however, largely for the enjoyment of the audience. People want to see you and the bride in love and in a romantic, dancing embrace. Believe me when I tell you that it's unlikely you'll remember much about your first dance. People who are watching, OTOH, will have it on video.

 

[pygmalion]

Eh. I'll put in a counter-argument to Pyg. (This is the AT forum after all. Got to argue about something. )

DH and I didn't do a first dance (or any dance, for that matter), for a lot of reasons. They were good reasons at the time. But...I will never have that with him. Ever. And it makes me very sad to think that. I never had a father-daughter dance with my dad at my wedding...and never will...ever. It makes me very sad. Yes, a lot of it is for show. But I also would have liked (looking back on things), those few moments just to ourselves. Because, really, even though everyone is watching...you're still apart and to yourselves out there.

I got to have something like the father-daughter dance I never had...but at my brother's wedding. I almost lost it and broke down crying. I hadn't realize just how incredibly special it would be. Ditto when I dance with DH now at weddings...I didn't realize then what I was giving up.

Yes, a lot of it is for show, and for typical, outdated, b.s. tradition reasons...but it is special. Or can be.

Just my $0.02. Shrug.

I'm sorry you didn't have that, P.

The ex and I danced to Wonderful Tonight.

My Dad and I danced to I'm So Proud and later to The Ruby and the Pearl.


The ex is history, but the beautiful memories still bring tears to my eyes.



Wedding dances matter.

 

[Subliminal]

So far we have as possibilities:

Tango:
La Melodía Del Corazón
Lo Que Vieron Tus Ojos
Desde El Alma

Non-Tango:
Alicia Keys - Fallin'
Apocalyptica - Nothing Else Matters
Jason Mraz - I'm Yours
Depeche Mode - Enjoy the Silence (She likes the non-tango one better.)
Garbage - #1 Crush (She says we might not be able to keep this one PG, so I might have to nix it for the good of the children. )

 

[pygmalion]

I love the fact that you defer to her wishes, sub. I really do.


Best of everything to you both. Really.

 

[Subliminal]

I love the fact that you defer to her wishes, sub. I really do.


Best of everything to you both. Really.

Thanks.

I'm using my leverage elsewhere, don't you worry. heh heh.

 

[Joe]

I've always been fond of Varela's "Palomita Blanca."