Whining Thread #2

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BF tells me last night he has to go to a party at 5, and won't stay long, then we will meet at 7, maybe earlier and go to dinner. Ok.

Today he texts at 4:30 that he is on his way to the party but not feeling well so he will let me know after the party what he wants to do.

So I sit and wait, expecting to hear from him one way or the other, and wait to eat incase he wants to go to dinner. 6:30 I text. 7:30 I text. No answers. 7:45 I call. He sends it to voicemail. Then he texts and says 'still at party.'

Hello? Clue me in. Just let me know, hey I'm going to stay a little longer. You should eat.

It's Saturday. Where are we going? Can't get dressed til you let me know.
 
wonderwoman said:
BF tells me last night he has to go to a party at 5, and won't stay long, then we will meet at 7, maybe earlier and go to dinner. Ok.

Today he texts at 4:30 that he is on his way to the party but not feeling well so he will let me know after the party what he wants to do.

So I sit and wait, expecting to hear from him one way or the other, and wait to eat incase he wants to go to dinner. 6:30 I text. 7:30 I text. No answers. 7:45 I call. He sends it to voicemail. Then he texts and says 'still at party.'

Hello? Clue me in. Just let me know, hey I'm going to stay a little longer. You should eat.

It's Saturday. Where are we going? Can't get dressed til you let me know.
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That sounds rough, WW... *hugs*
 
I know. It seems that way. I wasn't his priority. he couldn't text or step out and call. It's his dance partner's 3 year old's bday party which he's been at since 5 or maybe 5:30. The fact that it isn't bothering him that I'm not with him or that this is cutting in to our Saturday night.... He was feeling sick, but it's not like he went home to go to bed, he just stayed at the party and didn't answer his phone to touch base with me.
 
wonderwoman said:
I know. It seems that way. I wasn't his priority. he couldn't text or step out and call. It's his dance partner's 3 year old's bday party which he's been at since 5 or maybe 5:30. The fact that it isn't bothering him that I'm not with him or that this is cutting in to our Saturday night.... He was feeling sick, but it's not like he went home to go to bed, he just stayed at the party and didn't answer his phone to touch base with me.
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That's not cool... :confused:
 
8:30! "I just lost track of time" No kidding.

They wanted him to go out to dance and he was going to go!
I said, if you couldn't meet me or call me, why are you going dancing?
Why did he forget to call? Because he wasn't feeling well!
If he wasn't feeling well, why didn't he go home and go to bed?
Why did he tell them he would meet them for dancing later?

Now he feels terrible that he disappointed me and wants to stay in but he says not to come over because he wouldn't make good company since he's sick. Five minutes ago he was going dancing! Now he's too sick to hang with me and do nothing but have my company!
 
wonderwoman said:
8:30! "I just lost track of time" No kidding.

They wanted him to go out to dance and he was going to go!
I said, if you couldn't meet me or call me, why are you going dancing?
Why did he forget to call? Because he wasn't feeling well!
If he wasn't feeling well, why didn't he go home and go to bed?
Why did he tell them he would meet them for dancing later?

Now he feels terrible that he disappointed me and wants to stay in but he says not to come over because he wouldn't make good company since he's sick. Five minutes ago he was going dancing! Now he's too sick to hang with me and do nothing but have my company!
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Yikes! :sad:
 
Oh well. I literally had nothing better to do than sit and sulk, so I whined here... I know nobody cares.

So the friend whose party it was, was expecting to see him at the club. She came up to me and asked where he was. I said he is not feeling well, he went home. She said "Are you serious?!" He hadn't texted her to say he decided to stay in? Omg he's hopeless.
 
wonderwoman said:
My boyfriend and I had a momentary anxiety attack and broke up, I even changed my fb status to reflect single.. which was dumb,
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If you change your status to "it's complicated" people won't get into it with you or act on it because most folks already have way too much complication in their lives to get involved in someone else's. ;)
 
wonderwoman said:
BF tells me last night he has to go to a party at 5, and won't stay long, then we will meet at 7, maybe earlier and go to dinner. Ok.

Today he texts at 4:30 that he is on his way to the party but not feeling well so he will let me know after the party what he wants to do.

So I sit and wait, expecting to hear from him one way or the other, and wait to eat incase he wants to go to dinner. 6:30 I text. 7:30 I text. No answers. 7:45 I call. He sends it to voicemail. Then he texts and says 'still at party.'
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Someone gave me a great line one time...
"If you don't have a time, you don't have a date"

Next time he's flaky about the plan, just make your own plans without him. If he says he's feeling sick, so he may not feel like going out after he goes to a party (uh... right there you already have a contradiction in his attitude.. he's sick, but he might back out of YOUR date, not the party) say... "Oh, honey, I'm so sorry to hear you dont' feel well... yes, you should get some rest.. I have other things I can do tonight" and then go do something else!

One thing I've learned about guys in my 50+ years... when they want something bad enough, they make it happen. You don't have to accomodate them if they really want to see you.. they will accomodate YOU.
 
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