(Dance) Partners: for better or worse

I love to practice in the morning, he likes practice best in the evening - so we do both. We both like studios by our selves and practice at a social club though I think I favor the former more and he the latter (its pretty close). I like to work on movements more, he likes to work on steps more but, again, we both do both. Most important we both like to work a lot - as much as two people with careers can manage I think.

I imagine that major incompatability in practice needs/preferences may doom a partnership. Is that right?
 
It can but only if you allow it. It sounds to me as if you are both compromising and accommodating each others likes and preferences. So, if that continues, I don't think doomsday awaits.:)
 
I wonder how the comp will affect us though. One hopes that a good result will make us appreciate each other more and a bad one more inclined to work together - either can be a test of a dance partnership.

We have two coaches, grandfathered in from our previous solo private lessons. On the whole it has worked well up to now since mine is male and his is female and now we get both perspectives with the same cost (actually less since practices are almost free and before I would simply take more lessons). One coach is going to the comp while the other is not. the one that is not has asked a third person, a more senior coach, to give us critique - someone I have not even met yet. I am a bit worried about that 'cause we surely do not need yet another coach - too many cooks thinks me but it does not seem to bother DP much. Am I being too sensitive?
 
elisedance said:
... We have two coaches, grandfathered in from our previous solo private lessons. On the whole it has worked well up to now since mine is male and his is female and now we get both perspectives with the same cost (actually less since practices are almost free and before I would simply take more lessons). One coach is going to the comp while the other is not. the one that is not has asked a third person, a more senior coach, to give us critique - someone I have not even met yet. I am a bit worried about that 'cause we surely do not need yet another coach - too many cooks thinks me but it does not seem to bother DP much. Am I being too sensitive?
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elise - IMO - you work with those two coaches because you trust them - their expertise, their teaching, their style, whatever. If one of the coaches asked a third person to "have a look", I would presume it was because that coach trusted that third person. If I were the one in this situation - I would say "go with it" and trust your coach's trust in that third person. (Unless you hear something you didn't really want to hear! ;) )
 
I suppose so MrB - there is a bit more though that I would rather not post - maybe thats the bit thats making me nervous. Ah well, maybe it will be constructive for our partnership - except instinct is not going that route...
 
Well, it all depends on the people involved. If the 'extra' coach gives a critique that is good, that's great. If he brings up things to work on and gives 'constructive critisism', also good. If he is just negative, then ignore it. Don't allow anything negative to bring you down at a comp, real or not. Trust in yourself, your partner and the work you have put in. Keep communication lines open with your partner - even about being nervous regarding the extra coach. You are a team and need to 'be there' for each other.
Focus on positives all the time. Even if you muck up a move, keep going and put it behind you - don't get fazed.
Anyway, did I ever tell you how, as a cat, I have cat ESP? Well. I do and you will be fine.:D
 
How did you meet your DP?
My cousin aka. teacher hooked us up :P lol

How good a fit is it - physically, emotionally, financially or time-wise?
All of them, except she can get pretty emotional about a lost competition

Do you have issues with regards to paying for lessons? Fear of breaking up?
She sometimes fears I'm gonna stop dancing, I love dancing but sometimes I have my problems and although she puts forward personal interest I don't really feel like talking about it...

Is your partner supportive on the floor or does he/she blame you for any errors?
We joke about it :P

Do you work through challenges well or is it always a struggle?
No struggle at all. at least not from my part


What about developing your partnershp? How do you get that magical look where the couple seem to be expressing a life-relationship through dance?
Not really relationship just strong friendship.
 
meow said:
Well, it all depends on the people involved. If the 'extra' coach gives a critique that is good, that's great. If he brings up things to work on and gives 'constructive critisism', also good. If he is just negative, then ignore it. Don't allow anything negative to bring you down at a comp, real or not. Trust in yourself, your partner and the work you have put in. Keep communication lines open with your partner - even about being nervous regarding the extra coach. You are a team and need to 'be there' for each other.
Focus on positives all the time. Even if you muck up a move, keep going and put it behind you - don't get fazed.
Anyway, did I ever tell you how, as a cat, I have cat ESP? Well. I do and you will be fine.:D
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Well, your cat instinct was right on. I won't double post since I already talked about the compe elsewhere but it went really well and we got through it and did well enough for our names to appear on-line (which was, by the way, a big step and thrill). The coach thing also worked out fine - as also already posted so I won't go on about that either. Our M coach was there and provided all the support (and protection) necessary while we got nice feedback from all concerned.
 
Virtuoso said:
How did you meet your DP?
My cousin aka. teacher hooked us up :P lol

How good a fit is it - physically, emotionally, financially or time-wise?
All of them, except she can get pretty emotional about a lost competition

Do you have issues with regards to paying for lessons? Fear of breaking up?
She sometimes fears I'm gonna stop dancing, I love dancing but sometimes I have my problems and although she puts forward personal interest I don't really feel like talking about it...

Is your partner supportive on the floor or does he/she blame you for any errors?
We joke about it :P

Do you work through challenges well or is it always a struggle?
No struggle at all. at least not from my part


What about developing your partnershp? How do you get that magical look where the couple seem to be expressing a life-relationship through dance?
Not really relationship just strong friendship.
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V: sounds like you have a great dance relationship. Can you just fill us in a bit more as to what you compete in and at what level? From the above I would guess you are advanced amateurs or even professionals but its a hard call!
 
elisedance said:
Well, your cat instinct was right on. I won't double post since I already talked about the compe elsewhere but it went really well and we got through it and did well enough for our names to appear on-line (which was, by the way, a big step and thrill). The coach thing also worked out fine - as also already posted so I won't go on about that either. Our M coach was there and provided all the support (and protection) necessary while we got nice feedback from all concerned.
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:friend: :banana: :D
 
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