How to reject and what to do when rejected?

bordertangoman said:
http://www.stanford.edu/class/msande271/onlinetools/LearnedOpt.html
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[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]17. You prepared a special meal for a friend and he/she barely touched the food.
I wasn't a good cook.
I made the meal in a rush.

He/she is an ungrateful wretch!

[/FONT][FONT=Arial,Helvetica]Your romantic partner wants to cool things off for a while.
I'm too self-centered.
I don't spend enough time with him/her.[/FONT]
[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]He's an idiot who doesn't know a good thing when he's got it

and seriously... how many people want to cool things down when they feel you spend too LITTLE time with them? Doesn't that mean they think it is already TOO cool?
Isn't the more obvious answer:
"I focus too MUCH attention on him and am too clingy?"

[/FONT][FONT=Arial,Helvetica]Your stocks are at an all-time low.
I didn't know much about the business climate at the time.
I made a poor choice of stocks.

I didn't know much about the business climate resulting in a poor choice of stocks...
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For some reason, my answers for these questions were almost never on the list
;)
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bordertangoman said:
http://www.stanford.edu/class/msande271/onlinetools/LearnedOpt.html
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[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]30. You ask someone to dance and he/she says no.
I am not a good enough dancer.
He/she doesn't like to dance.[/FONT]

Yeah right... that guy who came to a dance and has been dancing all night with everyone else turned me down because he dosn't like to dance. :rolleyes:

Personally, I didn't think much at all of this test. It seemed they were assessing self-esteem more than optimism. Do you answer with something that is a general statement of yourself, or do you answer with a "specific to the situation" statement of yourself.

I received several "average" marks, a couple of "moderately pessimistic" marks and a couple of "moderately optimistic/hopeful" marks... And from that, my final score was:

Very Pessimistic.
Huh?
 
Zoopsia59 said:
[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]17. You prepared a special meal for a friend and he/she barely touched the food.
I wasn't a good cook.
I made the meal in a rush.

He/she is an ungrateful wretch!

[/FONT][FONT=Arial,Helvetica]Your romantic partner wants to cool things off for a while.
I'm too self-centered.
I don't spend enough time with him/her.[/FONT]
[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]He's an idiot who doesn't know a good thing when he's got it

and seriously... how many people want to cool things down when they feel you spend too LITTLE time with them? Doesn't that mean they think it is already TOO cool?
Isn't the more obvious answer:
"I focus too MUCH attention on him and am too clingy?"

[/FONT][FONT=Arial,Helvetica]Your stocks are at an all-time low.
I didn't know much about the business climate at the time.
I made a poor choice of stocks.

I didn't know much about the business climate resulting in a poor choice of stocks...
[/FONT][FONT=Arial,Helvetica]
For some reason, my answers for these questions were almost never on the list
;)
[/FONT]
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Yeah, there were a lot of questions where neither of the answers would apply to me.
 
Zoopsia59 said:
[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]30. You ask someone to dance and he/she says no.
I am not a good enough dancer.
He/she doesn't like to dance.[/FONT]

Yeah right... that guy who came to a dance and has been dancing all night with everyone else turned me down because he dosn't like to dance. :rolleyes:

Personally, I didn't think much at all of this test. It seemed they were assessing self-esteem more than optimism. Do you answer with something that is a general statement of yourself, or do you answer with a "specific to the situation" statement of yourself.

I received several "average" marks, a couple of "moderately pessimistic" marks and a couple of "moderately optimistic/hopeful" marks... And from that, my final score was:

Very Pessimistic.
Huh?
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aha! you are hoist by your own petard! your response to the questionnaire is pessimistic.

42. You do a questionaire which scores you as pessimistic:
1. You think its a poorly complied quastionaire.
2. There are too many leading questions which trap you into the wrong answers
3. Its all BTM's fault for raising it in the first place.

So i suggest to the question;
You ask someone to dance and they decline:
we proffer our own answers; for example
1. she's a stuck up tart who thinks the sun shines out.......
2. Her leg in plaster and I didnt notice that she'd arrived in a wheelchair.

please add your own
 
bordertangoman said:
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42. You do a questionaire which scores you as pessimistic:
1. You think its a poorly complied quastionaire.
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So an optimist never critically evaluates anything? Seriously? Ok.. if that's the definition - never seeing anything as flawed and in need of improvement, EVER - then yeah, I'm not an optimist.

I do a questionaire which gives me a breakdown of categories that results in scores of "average" and a balance of "Moderately optimistic" and "moderately pessimistic", and my final score from those categories is "Very pessimistic".

In what crazy statistical world does that make any sense at all?

The test's own results do not support the conclusion regardless of what I think.

So I'm sticking to my belief that it is either a very poorly designed test, or their calculator is broken.

And I totally blame you for posting it!
Pfft!
:p

but I'd still dance with you...(topic, topic... what was the topic?)
 
[FONT=Arial,Helvetica] The project you are in charge of is a great success.
I kept a close watch over everyone's work.
Everyone devoted a lot of time and energy to it.
Um...yeah. I'm good at what I do, and will do what it takes to make it successful...despite that @#$$#%@#$%-ing slacker what didn't do squat but will get a cut of the award money anyhow...which is why I hate working on teams. [/FONT][FONT=Arial,Helvetica]
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[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]3. You get lost driving to a friend's house.
I missed my turn.
My friend gave me bad directions.[/FONT]
Bugger.

[FONT=Arial,Helvetica][/FONT][FONT=Arial,Helvetica]26. You do exceptionally well in a job interview.
I felt extremely confident during the interview.
I interview well.[/FONT]
Huh. Last time that happened I walked in an hour late, drenched in sweat, hating them and hating life and already decided not to work for them. I wonder what happened this time?

[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]29. You've been feeling run-down lately.
I never get a chance to relax.
I was exceptionally busy this week.[/FONT]
Uh, yeah. It's called spending most of my waking hours never seeing sunlight...and going to bed around midnight and getting up at 4:30.

[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]37. Your doctor tells you that you are in good physical shape.
I make sure I exercise frequently.
I am very health conscious.[/FONT]
I find another doctor, because this one is obviously a quack.

[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]39. Your doctor tells you that you eat too much sugar.
I don't pay much attention to my diet.
You can't avoid sugar, it's in everything.[/FONT]
We've already established that my doctor is my soon-to-be ex-doctor, on account of being a quack (see: previous response). This comment only confirms it.

42. You fall down a great deal while skiing.
[FONT=Arial,Helvetica] Skiing is difficult.
The trails were icy.[/FONT]
What the hell was I doing skiing?

[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]44. Your stocks are at an all-time low.
I didn't know much about the business climate at the time.
I made a poor choice of stocks.[/FONT]
Um, dude? Everyone's stocks are about at an all time low. Where the hell have you been?

[FONT=Arial,Helvetica]48. They won't honor your credit card at a store.
I sometimes overestimate how much money I have.
I sometimes forget to pay my credit-card bill.[/FONT]
I know I paid the bill. Give me the phone, I am going to ream someone...and given the mood I'm in today, this is going to be FUN!
 
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