SHORT VERSION:
I have my first lesson in Standard next week, with a very tall pro in my studio I’ve never worked with before.
LONG VERSION:
At my lesson on Thursday, Pro actually said something positive about my smooth closed hold. Not one to resist opportunity, I chimed in, “so just think how amazing I could be - ” we finished the sentence in unison: “ - in standard.” I nodded eagerly. “Think of the underlying skills I would get so much better at! The awareness of partner connection. The precision in technique. Think how much that would improve my smooth dancing!”
He asked, “are you trying to convince ME to dance it with you?”
“No. You hate it.”
“No, I don’t - I mean, I don’t get any enjoyment out of it....”
“You’re passionate about rhythm. I want a teacher for standard who feels the same way about that as you do about rhythm.”
In a wooden voice, he said, “I’m a professional. I can teach any style I need to. That’s what I get paid for.”
I responded emphatically, “No! I wouldn’t ask you to do that. And I wouldn’t want a teacher who does it just because he’s getting paid - I need him to love it.”
He looked relieved. “For me, I like smooth much better. Smooth is much more challenging. Standard is, you know, whatever, fine. So I already talked to [Name1]. He is ready to have a lesson with you.”
“Why him versus [Name2]?”
He shrugged. “No reason, really, I guess. I mean, there’s no reason why one over the other...no one is going to say ‘oh my god why did she pick this person instead of that one’... [Name1] is tall,” he trailed off. (This is certainly true. He’s at least 6’ 4”).
I said, “I was thinking I’d try a lesson with each of them before choosing.”
He sucked in a long, slow breath, frowning. “You wouldn’t want to just pick one, and not bother with the other one?”
“How do I know whose teaching style will work for me?”
Long pause. “You’ve never tried either of them before? Never had a lesson with either one?”
“I had one lesson with [Name2] back in January when you were out sick. We worked on forward steps in rumba. That’s it.”
He nodded. “So what’s your time frame? Are you wanting to start right away?”
And then we changed direction to scheduling, number of lessons per week (too many for me lately - will have to spread them out more)....so it didn’t occur to me until much later that he didn’t fully answer my question. In fact, it feels like he steered away on purpose. There is some kind of subtext that I can’t read. It might be some or all or none of the following:
Pro doesn’t want me working with Name2 for some reason.
Name2 doesn’t want to work with me for some reason (but we can guess the reason, and nobody would blame him for his refusal, lol).
Since I’ve never worked with Name1, the studio policy or expectation is that it’s his “turn” next.
Of course, maybe it really is due to the simple fact that Name1 and I can create a better shape, better lines, whatever you call it, due to his height.
Whatever. We know I tend to overthink everything.