opendoor
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In Germany we have the expression "gestell" (scaffold, frame) for dance partner...they just want your body for dancing.Its the harsh truth.
Tango as it crosses over with the relationships, seduction and sexuality
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itwillhappen
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I'm not sure if every follower would like to be seen as a "dance sport attachment"?
TTanguero
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Don't be silly. The follower is the dancer, the leader is the frame/accessory.
Mr. Moustachio
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This would've been a good time to ask the teacher for help.
Tango Newbie
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Had I known back when a marriage failed and I was single how many single women (followers) were dancing Tango, I probably would have explored learning it back then. But, now that I have a girlfriend who has been dancing Tango , and after all the lessons I've taken and the practicas and milongas, I'm learning for other reasons; to do this as a couple (not as a single guy trying to meet women), and to learn something about myself and my capabilities.
On another note; Tango has been great physically. I see I have improved balance and agility, things I didn't have before.
TTanguero
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Why? It's probably the single most labour-intensive way to pick up women ever invented!
Tango Newbie
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Yes, I agree 100% (now that I've been taking lessons)..!!
Tango Newbie
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Yes, we tried a couple times, then the teacher stepped in and helped us.
tangobro
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As I've heard it from Argentine teachers - El hombre es la asta de la bandera, la mujer es la bandera. The man is the flagpole, the woman is the flag.
ArbeeNYC
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And where is the wind to flutter the flag?
Tango Newbie
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This is exactly how my 'experienced' girlfriend and partner sees it. The leaders are just the 'pole' to dance around so she can be the exhibitionist she is.
In fact, she has said to me many times in the past how she's not attracted to any of the leaders in tango. I suppose it's true, given the leaders I've been seen so far (even the good ones), but I also know she has her 'favorites' when it comes to the flag poles.
itwillhappen
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This is the first time I have doubts whether your girlfriend is really as experienced as you think.
I started a thread over in the Ballroom side about the follower's POV. Long story short: no, we do not all want to be seen as an attachment.
I'm not a flagpole either and followers who think my job is to stand still while they show off a bunch of random moves can think again.
I usually ignore all the "follower is the picture, leader is the frame" and "flag/flagpole" etc analogies. They help leaders to understand that they are not the centre of a dance and that there are two people in a partnership. It's usually trotted out in the beginner/intermediate phase when leaders are trying all the moves even the followers' because they look more complicated.
Nothing worse than standing at the side of a practice because two leaders want to practice the step learned in class when neither of them can lead it properly and neither of them have followed before!