What to do?

[chachachacat]

It could be just a passing feeling, of being fed up or something. You said you'd just had a difficult lesson - so, it could certainly be just a reaction.
It might not be dancing that's the problem, maybe competing, or maybe the coach, or maybe the attitudes in competitors, or...who knows what?
Whenever you feel it's appropriate, like if she says it again, try to find out what is is about dancing/competing that's upsetting her.
Maybe, just forget about it unless she says it again???

 

[Twilight_Elena]

That's quite a situation you're into. And I have NO idea what she's about. Sounds contradictory, this "I hate dancing but I won't quit". Maybe she meant "I hate dancing right now because I'm so frustrated".

T_E

 

[kayak]

If I might be so bold, I suggest adding a social hour to the practices. If you two have been dancing together for a year and you don't know much about her, it is time to find out. Grab dinner or coffee after practice or something. The worst case scenario is you would end up better friends and that would make you better dance partners. I know from past experience. Us guys think we aren't going to rock the boat, but it is already rockin'. So you might as well go with the flow.

 

[Twilight_Elena]

If I might be so bold, I suggest adding a social hour to the practices. If you two have been dancing together for a year and you don't know much about her, it is time to find out. Grab dinner or coffee after practice or something. The worst case scenario is you would end up better friends and that would make you better dance partners. I know from past experience. Us guys think we aren't going to rock the boat, but it is already rockin'. So you might as well go with the flow.

Good points there. Coffee won't lead to sex. Well. Unless it's decaf. :lol:

T_E

 

[Twilight_Elena]

It was a JOKE !!,

Ho ho! Next time, use smilies, buddy. :lol:

T_E

 

[WaltzElf]

Again, thanks to everyone for the responces... Things were better in classes later in the week - there was less of the anger vibe coming from her, at any rate. The frustration scenario seems pretty likely now, I think, with the big competition coming in a month and knowing her expectations with competition (which are completly unrealistic, but that's another story ), she's obviously a lot angrier when we're working on competition technique, rather than learning new things, or working on concert routines.

If I might be so bold, I suggest adding a social hour to the practices. If you two have been dancing together for a year and you don't know much about her, it is time to find out. Grab dinner or coffee after practice or something. The worst case scenario is you would end up better friends and that would make you better dance partners. I know from past experience. Us guys think we aren't going to rock the boat, but it is already rockin'. So you might as well go with the flow.

As much as I'd like to, that's not really an option at this stage, unless it's her idea to suggest it. Problem is she knows I'm a quite an intense, focused person (inwardly, I don't channel that intensity anywhere else but into a "I will work harder on this until it's right" frame of mind, but still), and for me to start being interested in being social with her outside of dance would be sending all the wrong kind of signs, much less innocent than my intentions would be.

 

[Twilight_Elena]

As much as I'd like to, that's not really an option at this stage, unless it's her idea to suggest it. Problem is she knows I'm a quite an intense, focused person (inwardly, I don't channel that intensity anywhere else but into a "I will work harder on this until it's right" frame of mind, but still), and for me to start being interested in being social with her outside of dance would be sending all the wrong kind of signs, much less innocent than my intentions would be.

Suggesting social dancing sounds pretty innocent to me. If you suggest it the right way and make sure it's clear that you're not trying to send any sort of signals. Think about it.

T_E