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Surely tango is at least as much of a mess with stage performances borrowing moves from other dances because it would be too boring otherwise, instructors adding random adjectives to tango to attract people to workshops, and encuentros being some weird thing invented in Europe.

But that's also theoretical! Occasionally one of them wants to try leading me, and I warn them at the start that I'm not a good follower. The lead is always too subtle anyway.

Probably because salsa music can be rhythmically interesting, but people just ignore it and dance the same pattern all the time.

In general I don't see why the follower should do all the work (or have all the fun, depending on your point of view) whether it's in tango, salsa, or anything else

Actually I think it is friendly when the ratio of tourists to locals is lower. If I had a local crowded milonga where 50 random new people showed up each week most of whom I'd never see again, I'd be selective too

why do you think that?

I know what great followers can feel like, but that that doesnt make me any good at following!

I know I am probably an outlier but I frequently experience very good connection with people relatively new to tango. (not everyone though)

Actually, in relaxed milongas in Buenos Aires, this was exactly how it was. I think it would be a waste of time to argue whether they're any more or less "authentic" than the strict ones.

someone needs to put up a version of that for followers

I don't see what's wrong with it, you aren't trying to look the same as everyone else

All of the above

We have too many veterans trying to "shape culture" in the tango scene.

It is, but you have to go there with open eyes and get away from the touristic circuit and see.

Generally if a couple shows up and sits together and mainly interacts with each other, its up to them to actively invite others if they want to dance, otherwise people will just naturally assume they don't want to the social dynamic probably changes if there are a high proportion of couples

One of the secrets of tango is that some pairings have the ability to create these (and other powerful emotions) without the dance partners necessarily having to be in a relationship.

These events sound to me like they're deliberately designed to facilitate hookups, is that an accurate interpretation?

There is a lot of meaningless flirting going on. Also the failure rate for relationships formed in tango is, according to my observations, high (our scene currently has a lot of drama caused by these.)

responding to a few things out of order - Women on average just have better interpersonal skills than men. (Doesn't mean they can't also be toxic sometimes.) - Tango is a very difficult business to scale up by expansion because it depends on personal relationships. - However normal business...

The lack of self-awareness from someone actively engaged in making the problem worse in that quote is depressing